Baxter's Buzz
Question of the Week-Election 2010 was politics as usual. That's life right? No surprises. I feel that my simplicity in viewing situations sets me up for all kinds of disappointment. Someone will say, "Hey Baxter, would you like to go out tonight with us?" And my reply will be, "Probably not this time, but please let me know next time because I very well could make it next time." I get these looks like I'm being anti-social, rude or some other negative adjective. What about those that say, " Yes! Please call me later and we'll meet up," but they have no intentions in going out. THOSE are the people that I have issues with.
I think people lie so much, that they expect to be lied to. It's like this acceptance that I refuse to accept. Am I missing something? When your boss tells you something, and then they deny it? When your family member or friend commits to something and then reneges? Not cool.
I'm not saying that I've never committed and didn't follow through, I am human. I do my very best to avoid that though. And if I come across as being cold or direct when I politely refuse an invite or speak the truth when somebody asks me a question, I'm sorry. But under no circumstances am I going to lie to appease you! I don't believe in that. Maybe I'm too simple. I just want people to be honest. I can handle that way better than a disingenuous person. What do you think?
Saturday, November 6, 2010
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Keep on Trekking
Buzz of the Month
I've spent an enormous amount of time recently pondering my future. More than usual, I have this uneasiness because I feel like I'm late to my own party.
I was fortunate to graduate from high school and attend college the following school year. I wasn't ready for college. Not because I couldn't handle to material or the freedom of college.
I didn't have a direction.
I had no idea of what I wanted to do, so my lack of direction impeded my progression in school. I was up a creek without a direction. I wasn't one of these kids being pushed in a direction by my family that I didn't choose. I didn't even have pressure from anyone. I was just floating like a leaf in the wind. Maybe if I had someone unfairly pressuring me into a career path that I didn't want, I'd at least have a stinking degree. But then what? I'd have a degree, true, but would still be struggling to find myself.
There's no doubt in my mind that I'd be successful, but this itch I have today would still be here if I hadn't found my niche yet.
I am blessed to be very well rounded. I have a variety of interests and I happen to be pretty good in several areas. Sometimes it becomes frustrating because I have so many things I want to do. It is even more frustrating when I don't do anything about any of it.
I was talking to a good friend of mine about my "dilemma" this weekend. sidenote: I put quotations around "dilemma" because I understand there are people out there who would love to have this particular dilemma.
And what she help me understand is: I can do all of these things, but I need to get started right away. So my solution is to pick a direction and go. And in the midst of doing this one thing, I can add these other passions as I go. I need to stop worrying about how long my trip will take, and just start trekking.
I appreciate my few readers who keep up with my blog. I have so much on my mind...all the time, but I battle with myself about what is appropriate and what should be kept to myself. I will continue to do my best post consistently, and I ask you to please continue to read :)
I've spent an enormous amount of time recently pondering my future. More than usual, I have this uneasiness because I feel like I'm late to my own party.
I was fortunate to graduate from high school and attend college the following school year. I wasn't ready for college. Not because I couldn't handle to material or the freedom of college.
I didn't have a direction.
I had no idea of what I wanted to do, so my lack of direction impeded my progression in school. I was up a creek without a direction. I wasn't one of these kids being pushed in a direction by my family that I didn't choose. I didn't even have pressure from anyone. I was just floating like a leaf in the wind. Maybe if I had someone unfairly pressuring me into a career path that I didn't want, I'd at least have a stinking degree. But then what? I'd have a degree, true, but would still be struggling to find myself.
There's no doubt in my mind that I'd be successful, but this itch I have today would still be here if I hadn't found my niche yet.
I am blessed to be very well rounded. I have a variety of interests and I happen to be pretty good in several areas. Sometimes it becomes frustrating because I have so many things I want to do. It is even more frustrating when I don't do anything about any of it.
I was talking to a good friend of mine about my "dilemma" this weekend. sidenote: I put quotations around "dilemma" because I understand there are people out there who would love to have this particular dilemma.
And what she help me understand is: I can do all of these things, but I need to get started right away. So my solution is to pick a direction and go. And in the midst of doing this one thing, I can add these other passions as I go. I need to stop worrying about how long my trip will take, and just start trekking.
I appreciate my few readers who keep up with my blog. I have so much on my mind...all the time, but I battle with myself about what is appropriate and what should be kept to myself. I will continue to do my best post consistently, and I ask you to please continue to read :)
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
How Will You Be Remembered
Baxter's Buzz
Life is tough. Its full of ups and downs. Regrets and awesome memories. Most of the time, the memories are attached to relationships. Friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, and random people that we've connected with temporarily (open for interpretation). When it is all said and done, and folks get the news that you have died and passed away, what will they remember about you?
Those memories will be based on their relationship with you. Sometimes we are chasing these tangible things, disregarding the bonds that we have with people close to us. A simple gesture by us could mean the world to someone else.
On Friday, I was able to get my first student signed up for a program at my job (great news!), while my granny-in-law was being rushed to the hospital (awful news). Bittersweet is not the appropriate word. Bitter is the word. Granny, is one of the sweetest people in the world. I give my mother-in-law all of the credit for why my wife is so sweet, but Granny deserves much of the credit also.
So the following day, I went with the Mrs. to visit Granny. She was not looking good at all. She's weak and not eating much. She's been diagnosed with cancer.
While on the way home from the hospital, my twin nephews called to invite me to their birthday party, which happened to be less than a mile from where I was. We decided to stop by, sing happy birthday, and shoot the breeze with my sister and the rest of the adults that were in attendance. I was able to spend a little time with one of nephews, Blake. He calls me quite often and does his best to let me know what's going on in his world.
Their mom, my sister Lynne, is who I lived with as a young teen, until I went away to school. We've never been terribly close, but even her and I got a chance to kick it Saturday for a few minutes. I stood in the kitchen while she finished up dinner. As she talked to me, I realized something...Lynne misses me! It dawned on my because every time we talk, she shares her thoughts. Rarely do we have small talk. It is typically some heavy stuff that's on her mind, and I am always blown away. Blown away because we speak so rarely, not due to anything else. I think about how I'd like to be in my nephews' lives more than I am and maybe my sister needs my support as well. This is going on minutes after we left Granny in the hospital. It was two extremes: Someone who has lived such a long life, winding down; and two 11 year old kids, full of energy, just learning about this world and themselves.
I sat in the kitchen while my mother-in-law shared news with my wife and I. All three of us were shaken up. It had always been my wife, Shayla, her mom...and Granny. They've done everything together and the thought of losing her was too much to contemplate.
Relationships are what we're on earth for. I want to have more meaningful relationships with my loved ones before its my time to go. Relationships similar to what my wife and mother-in-law share. So as I live in this moment, closer in age to my 11 year old nephews than Granny, who's been on this earth over 86 years, I want to have the energy of the kids, and the wisdom of the elders. I want to be building meaningful relationships the entire way, so people will have something to remember me by.
Note: This post was mostly written over a week ago. Granny is still with us and we thank God that she is in very little pain. The sadness that we feel as we think about life without her is important because of what she has meant to us (especially my wife and mother-in-law). Even though we are sad, the fond memories allows us to smile through our tears.
Life is tough. Its full of ups and downs. Regrets and awesome memories. Most of the time, the memories are attached to relationships. Friends, family, boyfriends, girlfriends, and random people that we've connected with temporarily (open for interpretation). When it is all said and done, and folks get the news that you have died and passed away, what will they remember about you?
Those memories will be based on their relationship with you. Sometimes we are chasing these tangible things, disregarding the bonds that we have with people close to us. A simple gesture by us could mean the world to someone else.
On Friday, I was able to get my first student signed up for a program at my job (great news!), while my granny-in-law was being rushed to the hospital (awful news). Bittersweet is not the appropriate word. Bitter is the word. Granny, is one of the sweetest people in the world. I give my mother-in-law all of the credit for why my wife is so sweet, but Granny deserves much of the credit also.
So the following day, I went with the Mrs. to visit Granny. She was not looking good at all. She's weak and not eating much. She's been diagnosed with cancer.
While on the way home from the hospital, my twin nephews called to invite me to their birthday party, which happened to be less than a mile from where I was. We decided to stop by, sing happy birthday, and shoot the breeze with my sister and the rest of the adults that were in attendance. I was able to spend a little time with one of nephews, Blake. He calls me quite often and does his best to let me know what's going on in his world.
Their mom, my sister Lynne, is who I lived with as a young teen, until I went away to school. We've never been terribly close, but even her and I got a chance to kick it Saturday for a few minutes. I stood in the kitchen while she finished up dinner. As she talked to me, I realized something...Lynne misses me! It dawned on my because every time we talk, she shares her thoughts. Rarely do we have small talk. It is typically some heavy stuff that's on her mind, and I am always blown away. Blown away because we speak so rarely, not due to anything else. I think about how I'd like to be in my nephews' lives more than I am and maybe my sister needs my support as well. This is going on minutes after we left Granny in the hospital. It was two extremes: Someone who has lived such a long life, winding down; and two 11 year old kids, full of energy, just learning about this world and themselves.
I sat in the kitchen while my mother-in-law shared news with my wife and I. All three of us were shaken up. It had always been my wife, Shayla, her mom...and Granny. They've done everything together and the thought of losing her was too much to contemplate.
Relationships are what we're on earth for. I want to have more meaningful relationships with my loved ones before its my time to go. Relationships similar to what my wife and mother-in-law share. So as I live in this moment, closer in age to my 11 year old nephews than Granny, who's been on this earth over 86 years, I want to have the energy of the kids, and the wisdom of the elders. I want to be building meaningful relationships the entire way, so people will have something to remember me by.
Note: This post was mostly written over a week ago. Granny is still with us and we thank God that she is in very little pain. The sadness that we feel as we think about life without her is important because of what she has meant to us (especially my wife and mother-in-law). Even though we are sad, the fond memories allows us to smile through our tears.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
I've Got to be Me (Part 2)
Buzz of the Day
I thought I knew a little about Sammy Davis Jr., but I knew very little. He came up in the 1940's and 50's. Years before the Civil Rights Movement. He headlined in places where he couldn't even walk in the front door at. I've started to read more about him online and I am very impressed with his courage. The man was talented! He sang and danced. He was an actor and musician. But I'm more impressed with his courage. The things he had to endure during those times...He paved the way for African American entertainers.
I am also very impressed with Frank Sinatra. He helped Davis Jr. break some of those barriers, by putting himself on the line because he knew the discrimination was wrong. Sinatra had a great deal of influence and he used it for good and bad. I think influence is a wonderful thing. And if we have just a little, or Chairman of the Board type of influence, we should do our best to help others.
I thought I knew a little about Sammy Davis Jr., but I knew very little. He came up in the 1940's and 50's. Years before the Civil Rights Movement. He headlined in places where he couldn't even walk in the front door at. I've started to read more about him online and I am very impressed with his courage. The man was talented! He sang and danced. He was an actor and musician. But I'm more impressed with his courage. The things he had to endure during those times...He paved the way for African American entertainers.
I am also very impressed with Frank Sinatra. He helped Davis Jr. break some of those barriers, by putting himself on the line because he knew the discrimination was wrong. Sinatra had a great deal of influence and he used it for good and bad. I think influence is a wonderful thing. And if we have just a little, or Chairman of the Board type of influence, we should do our best to help others.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
I've Got to be Me (Part 1)
This is a post from about 1 year ago. Happy Holidays and Enjoy
Buzz of the Day
A couple of months ago, I watched the 'Rat Pack' movie. It was released in 1998 and Ray Liotta played Frank Sinatra and Don Cheadle played Sammy Davis Jr. As some of you may know, I love biographies. I love stories. Especially true ones. All of these movie stars and entertainers are people, like you and I. Most of them have a talent or skill that most of us "regular" folks don't. But most of them also have a tremendous amount of self confidence and a tremendous amount of drive.
Don't forget discipline. We see the wonderful performances on the football field or basketball court, but we don't see the hours with a personal trainer in the off season, the practices and the film study. We attend the outstanding concert, but we don't see the months of rehearsal.
We may not have the talent, but what keeps us from being as successful as we could be, is the lack of drive and discipline. It's the classic argument of nature vs. nurture. Now I don't think I could be the next American Idol if I had more drive, but maybe I'd be in a better position in my chosen profession.
I think experts say that geniuses use about 15% of their brain. What percentage of effort do we use daily in our lives? How much more do you have to give?
Buzz of the Day
A couple of months ago, I watched the 'Rat Pack' movie. It was released in 1998 and Ray Liotta played Frank Sinatra and Don Cheadle played Sammy Davis Jr. As some of you may know, I love biographies. I love stories. Especially true ones. All of these movie stars and entertainers are people, like you and I. Most of them have a talent or skill that most of us "regular" folks don't. But most of them also have a tremendous amount of self confidence and a tremendous amount of drive.
Don't forget discipline. We see the wonderful performances on the football field or basketball court, but we don't see the hours with a personal trainer in the off season, the practices and the film study. We attend the outstanding concert, but we don't see the months of rehearsal.
We may not have the talent, but what keeps us from being as successful as we could be, is the lack of drive and discipline. It's the classic argument of nature vs. nurture. Now I don't think I could be the next American Idol if I had more drive, but maybe I'd be in a better position in my chosen profession.
I think experts say that geniuses use about 15% of their brain. What percentage of effort do we use daily in our lives? How much more do you have to give?
Monday, August 30, 2010
Buzz of the Week
Love, Always - There are plenty of people in the world who are in love today. There are also people who are currently heartbroken, trying to do something to get their mind off of their ex boyfriend/girlfriend. The definition of Love is one of those things that is open to interpretation, but when someone feels they're in love, it is pretty matter of fact.
Many times we invest so much in our relationships that we lose ourselves in them. We lose our identity and feel incomplete without our significant other. I've experienced some of the most beautiful, wonderful people, become a replica of themselves, minus the confidence and self esteem. It happens to the best of us too. I remember my dad telling me, "Boy you ain't had your heart broken before." I didn't have plans for that , but as sure as the sky is blue, heart break happened to me too.
We have all these tangible things that are needed to validate us. But true happiness comes from within and not from some engagement ring or trophy wife.
It's hard being alone. Sometimes we put up with not so great relationships to avoid loneliness... Not the best move. We need to view ourselves as fortune 500 companies. When we "merge" with another company, it has to be a good fit. If it's not, okay, we are still doing great without the merger. But the most important thing is to experience happiness (or profitability for the sake of my metaphor) prior to any merger so that you understand YOUR worth. If it ain't a win win, take your business elsewhere.
Sorry about the one week delay...But I will be posting multiple times this week.
Love, Always - There are plenty of people in the world who are in love today. There are also people who are currently heartbroken, trying to do something to get their mind off of their ex boyfriend/girlfriend. The definition of Love is one of those things that is open to interpretation, but when someone feels they're in love, it is pretty matter of fact.
Many times we invest so much in our relationships that we lose ourselves in them. We lose our identity and feel incomplete without our significant other. I've experienced some of the most beautiful, wonderful people, become a replica of themselves, minus the confidence and self esteem. It happens to the best of us too. I remember my dad telling me, "Boy you ain't had your heart broken before." I didn't have plans for that , but as sure as the sky is blue, heart break happened to me too.
We have all these tangible things that are needed to validate us. But true happiness comes from within and not from some engagement ring or trophy wife.
It's hard being alone. Sometimes we put up with not so great relationships to avoid loneliness... Not the best move. We need to view ourselves as fortune 500 companies. When we "merge" with another company, it has to be a good fit. If it's not, okay, we are still doing great without the merger. But the most important thing is to experience happiness (or profitability for the sake of my metaphor) prior to any merger so that you understand YOUR worth. If it ain't a win win, take your business elsewhere.
Sorry about the one week delay...But I will be posting multiple times this week.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Please, Keep Me In The Loop
Baxter's Buzz
Did you get the memo? - How aware are you of things that are going on? What is your focus on? Is it Lindsay Lohan? Is it the Detroit Lions? What about the events going on in Washington D.C.? Or maybe it's your child's dance recital? The new gossip at work?
I think about all of the things that happen every day, and there's a lot going on. From sports, politics, entertainment, to family gossip/news. How in the loop are you? There are days were news of the Detroit Lions excite me to no end. There are days where all I do is watch the world news, observing how things play out politically. Some days, I'll get a call, catching me up on family matters that I had no idea about. How does one keep up?
There are so many things that I feel I need to be aware of, and I consider them all educational. Whether it's the race for governor, or American history and how it relates to current times, both of these things are worthy of a portion of your attention. We should always be learning something.
As I get older, I understand the importance of education. Not just a high school or college degree, but a true understanding of history and current events.
Post 911 Effect - I had a couple of meetings at one of other locations last week, and we share this building with many different business. As I was walking to the elevator, I saw a dude who looked a little suspicious. As we walked past one another, I thought about how helpless we are in situations like that.
Ridiculousness of the Week
Take this job and shove it - Steven Slater, a flight attendant for 28 years became somewhat of a national hero this past week when he quit his job. He didn't write a letter of resignation. He got on the intercom and cursed everyone out! "To the f-ing a-hole that told me to f-off, it's been a good 28 years!" He proceeded to grab two beers and jump down the emergency exit shoot. For anyone that has experienced difficult times at a job, hopefully Steven Slater made you smile a little.
Sports Buzz
Keep your eye on the ball - This guy has been labeled, "The Worst Boyfriend Ever" when he moved out the way as a foul ball hit his girlfriend. There are reports that she has broken up with him. Good for her!
Random Buzz
RIP to Nelson House, founder of the Woodward Dream Cruise. House died this past Thursday of colon cancer, on the heels of the 16th annual Dream Cruise on August 21.
I was in the checkout line this weekend and saw a magazine called Diabetic Living. I think it's awesome that there are resources for folks who have certain diet restrictions. Hell, we all could take a page out of Diabetic Living. Maybe it would add some years on our life.
Did you get the memo? - How aware are you of things that are going on? What is your focus on? Is it Lindsay Lohan? Is it the Detroit Lions? What about the events going on in Washington D.C.? Or maybe it's your child's dance recital? The new gossip at work?
I think about all of the things that happen every day, and there's a lot going on. From sports, politics, entertainment, to family gossip/news. How in the loop are you? There are days were news of the Detroit Lions excite me to no end. There are days where all I do is watch the world news, observing how things play out politically. Some days, I'll get a call, catching me up on family matters that I had no idea about. How does one keep up?
There are so many things that I feel I need to be aware of, and I consider them all educational. Whether it's the race for governor, or American history and how it relates to current times, both of these things are worthy of a portion of your attention. We should always be learning something.
As I get older, I understand the importance of education. Not just a high school or college degree, but a true understanding of history and current events.
Post 911 Effect - I had a couple of meetings at one of other locations last week, and we share this building with many different business. As I was walking to the elevator, I saw a dude who looked a little suspicious. As we walked past one another, I thought about how helpless we are in situations like that.
Ridiculousness of the Week
Take this job and shove it - Steven Slater, a flight attendant for 28 years became somewhat of a national hero this past week when he quit his job. He didn't write a letter of resignation. He got on the intercom and cursed everyone out! "To the f-ing a-hole that told me to f-off, it's been a good 28 years!" He proceeded to grab two beers and jump down the emergency exit shoot. For anyone that has experienced difficult times at a job, hopefully Steven Slater made you smile a little.
Sports Buzz
Keep your eye on the ball - This guy has been labeled, "The Worst Boyfriend Ever" when he moved out the way as a foul ball hit his girlfriend. There are reports that she has broken up with him. Good for her!
Random Buzz
RIP to Nelson House, founder of the Woodward Dream Cruise. House died this past Thursday of colon cancer, on the heels of the 16th annual Dream Cruise on August 21.
I was in the checkout line this weekend and saw a magazine called Diabetic Living. I think it's awesome that there are resources for folks who have certain diet restrictions. Hell, we all could take a page out of Diabetic Living. Maybe it would add some years on our life.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Buzz of the Week
Baxter's Buzz
Hello everyone. I'm back buzzing this week with a variety of topics. Enjoy!
Having Fun Yet? - I was watching one of the channels (Maybe CNN?) and found out that President Obama would be a guest on "The View". There have been folks saying that "The View" is beneath the president. I believe that you reach the people, wherever they are. I watched the interview and he said something very interesting. He talked about making tough decisions and how the things that the media talk about, many times isn't what he is dealing with.
Perception is reality and sometimes we have to appear mad to communicate to the masses that we're mad. As a Detroiter, and a Tigers fan, we've been waiting for the manager, Jim Leyland to lose his cool with his team...in front of the media. What's more important to you: Genuinely caring and working hard, or appearing to genuinely care and appearing to work hard?
When I first started at my current employer, there was a guy who worked there for several years. A real class act, good guy. After less than a year, Dan was leaving the company. We all went out for drinks, and before we parted ways, he gave me some advice: Don't feel bad about letting people know of your good deeds at work. In other words, toot your own horn every now and again. That is not my style, but sometimes when you are humble, you get overlooked...okay, most of the time when you're humble, you get overlooked. So when Obama doesn't get on television and pound his fist, or Leyland doesn't throw a tirade after a tough loss, they're criticized for not caring when that is light years from the truth!
I thinks it is a shame when we have to be WWE entertainers to get our point across. I tell myself all the time that I need to be more vocal, but there's only so much of that I can do. Earlier, I said that you reach the people, wherever they are. Does that mean put on a show to communicate that you're working. I'm not so sure that's what I meant. Good question though. It's actually something that I struggle with because I understand how perception works, and I've gone unnoticed many times because I have not gone out of my way to pat myself on the back.
Sports Buzz
Three's Company? - There is a lot of buzz that Mike Ilitch, owner of the Detroit Red Wings and Detroit Tigers, will attempt to purchase the Detroit Pistons! That would be awesome in my opinion. Potentially moving the Pistons downtown, to share an arena with the Red Wings makes perfect sense. I went to Cleveland this summer with my wife and one of the things that I couldn't shake from my brain was: Why can't Detroit's downtown be this nice? The Pistons won't save downtown, but it would be a wonderful step in the right direction.
Ridiculousness of the week
5,4,3 - Has anyone seen those Quiznos commercials with the cats in those funky costumes?? I can't lie, I'm a notorious clicker, but when I see an ad that catches my eye, I watch. I haven't been able to turn those off....yet.
Once again, I appreciate the two folks that read and support this blog. There will be some changes coming soon, and I'll be sure to keep you two in loop.
Hello everyone. I'm back buzzing this week with a variety of topics. Enjoy!
Having Fun Yet? - I was watching one of the channels (Maybe CNN?) and found out that President Obama would be a guest on "The View". There have been folks saying that "The View" is beneath the president. I believe that you reach the people, wherever they are. I watched the interview and he said something very interesting. He talked about making tough decisions and how the things that the media talk about, many times isn't what he is dealing with.
Perception is reality and sometimes we have to appear mad to communicate to the masses that we're mad. As a Detroiter, and a Tigers fan, we've been waiting for the manager, Jim Leyland to lose his cool with his team...in front of the media. What's more important to you: Genuinely caring and working hard, or appearing to genuinely care and appearing to work hard?
When I first started at my current employer, there was a guy who worked there for several years. A real class act, good guy. After less than a year, Dan was leaving the company. We all went out for drinks, and before we parted ways, he gave me some advice: Don't feel bad about letting people know of your good deeds at work. In other words, toot your own horn every now and again. That is not my style, but sometimes when you are humble, you get overlooked...okay, most of the time when you're humble, you get overlooked. So when Obama doesn't get on television and pound his fist, or Leyland doesn't throw a tirade after a tough loss, they're criticized for not caring when that is light years from the truth!
I thinks it is a shame when we have to be WWE entertainers to get our point across. I tell myself all the time that I need to be more vocal, but there's only so much of that I can do. Earlier, I said that you reach the people, wherever they are. Does that mean put on a show to communicate that you're working. I'm not so sure that's what I meant. Good question though. It's actually something that I struggle with because I understand how perception works, and I've gone unnoticed many times because I have not gone out of my way to pat myself on the back.
Sports Buzz
Three's Company? - There is a lot of buzz that Mike Ilitch, owner of the Detroit Red Wings and Detroit Tigers, will attempt to purchase the Detroit Pistons! That would be awesome in my opinion. Potentially moving the Pistons downtown, to share an arena with the Red Wings makes perfect sense. I went to Cleveland this summer with my wife and one of the things that I couldn't shake from my brain was: Why can't Detroit's downtown be this nice? The Pistons won't save downtown, but it would be a wonderful step in the right direction.
Ridiculousness of the week
5,4,3 - Has anyone seen those Quiznos commercials with the cats in those funky costumes?? I can't lie, I'm a notorious clicker, but when I see an ad that catches my eye, I watch. I haven't been able to turn those off....yet.
Once again, I appreciate the two folks that read and support this blog. There will be some changes coming soon, and I'll be sure to keep you two in loop.
Monday, August 2, 2010
How Are Those Resolutions Going? (Part 1)
Baxter's Buzz
How are your New Year Resolutions going? Oh, wait, did you forget about them? It seems so long ago huh? Well, what now?
I struggle with enjoying myself now, while preparing for the future. Sometimes I'll see someone doing what I dreamed about years ago. What stopped me? The further away the goal is, the more things that could potentially distract you. If you were just heading around the corner, odds are you'd get there without a hitch. But if you were heading across country, there are plenty of obstacles that could deter you. As I get older, I don't too much worry about the 'coulda, shoulda, wouldas' unless I can still change them. I don't worry about the spilled milk, but I worry like hell about spilling it.
I used to think that I was afraid of nothing. Once I realized what I really was afraid of, I told few people. Well, for all two of my two readers; I'm going to let you in on a secret. I'm afraid of failure. I'm also afraid of success. I've been afraid of failure for many years, but my fear of success is an on-again, off-again thing. its not the success, its the consistency that is needed to maintain the type of success I want. So I have chosen to live my 29 years better than most, but not to my full potential, afraid that I won't be able to sustain that level.
How are your New Year Resolutions going? Oh, wait, did you forget about them? It seems so long ago huh? Well, what now?
I struggle with enjoying myself now, while preparing for the future. Sometimes I'll see someone doing what I dreamed about years ago. What stopped me? The further away the goal is, the more things that could potentially distract you. If you were just heading around the corner, odds are you'd get there without a hitch. But if you were heading across country, there are plenty of obstacles that could deter you. As I get older, I don't too much worry about the 'coulda, shoulda, wouldas' unless I can still change them. I don't worry about the spilled milk, but I worry like hell about spilling it.
I used to think that I was afraid of nothing. Once I realized what I really was afraid of, I told few people. Well, for all two of my two readers; I'm going to let you in on a secret. I'm afraid of failure. I'm also afraid of success. I've been afraid of failure for many years, but my fear of success is an on-again, off-again thing. its not the success, its the consistency that is needed to maintain the type of success I want. So I have chosen to live my 29 years better than most, but not to my full potential, afraid that I won't be able to sustain that level.
Monday, July 26, 2010
If You Love What You Do...
Buzz of the Week
I was at the mall last week, trying to resolve an issue with my wife's wedding ring. Outside of having to fork over money, the overall experience was...refreshing. The manager of the store was a younger guy. My wife thought he appeared nervous, while I got the impression of an extremely calculated and thoughtful sales person. I did not pick up on any deceit, although I am naturally skeptical. He explained everything too us and told my wife and I that he'd do everything in his power limit our out-of-pocket expenses.
On to the good part. Mark, the manager asked if we wanted to view some larger diamonds. I agreed solely because my wife was upset about the ordeal, and I knew she'd enjoy it. This is when Mark's passion for his job started to shine through. He played the level headed manager role in the beginning, but when he was able to sell, he was lethal! He was enthusiastic, knowledgeable, while omitting the slickness of a typical sales guy. I had been very dry towards Mark, but even I became increasingly excited as he described the clarity, style, and origin of particular diamonds. I'll tell you what, if I had money, I would have seriously considered buying something.
35 minutes later I had to pull my wife away so we could head home. On our way out, we decided to stop by Yankee Candle. There, we were greeted by the assistant manager. She talked about candles, of all things, with so much passion, I was just as impressed with her as I was with Mark. I will probably never buy a candle if it isn't a Yankee Candle.
I think about the ho hum folks I come across in every profession. I think its an absolute shame that people in the customer service business are generally not very customer service oriented. It is always refreshing to see those who genuinely care about their craft and the people they serve.
I think about my new position and how excited I am to help the displaced/unemployed people turned students. I am hopeful that my work is viewed as helpful, passionate, and as sincere as the folks at the mall last Thursday.
I was at the mall last week, trying to resolve an issue with my wife's wedding ring. Outside of having to fork over money, the overall experience was...refreshing. The manager of the store was a younger guy. My wife thought he appeared nervous, while I got the impression of an extremely calculated and thoughtful sales person. I did not pick up on any deceit, although I am naturally skeptical. He explained everything too us and told my wife and I that he'd do everything in his power limit our out-of-pocket expenses.
On to the good part. Mark, the manager asked if we wanted to view some larger diamonds. I agreed solely because my wife was upset about the ordeal, and I knew she'd enjoy it. This is when Mark's passion for his job started to shine through. He played the level headed manager role in the beginning, but when he was able to sell, he was lethal! He was enthusiastic, knowledgeable, while omitting the slickness of a typical sales guy. I had been very dry towards Mark, but even I became increasingly excited as he described the clarity, style, and origin of particular diamonds. I'll tell you what, if I had money, I would have seriously considered buying something.
35 minutes later I had to pull my wife away so we could head home. On our way out, we decided to stop by Yankee Candle. There, we were greeted by the assistant manager. She talked about candles, of all things, with so much passion, I was just as impressed with her as I was with Mark. I will probably never buy a candle if it isn't a Yankee Candle.
I think about the ho hum folks I come across in every profession. I think its an absolute shame that people in the customer service business are generally not very customer service oriented. It is always refreshing to see those who genuinely care about their craft and the people they serve.
I think about my new position and how excited I am to help the displaced/unemployed people turned students. I am hopeful that my work is viewed as helpful, passionate, and as sincere as the folks at the mall last Thursday.
Sunday, July 11, 2010
The Recruit
Buzz of the Week
The Recruit - As I look at all the craziness surrounding LeBron James and where he'll play basketball for the next 5-6 years, I imagine what it would be like to be recruited. I am starting a new job in the coming weeks where I'll be working with folks who are looking to enter/reenter the workforce. I am very thankful for the opportunity and I believe my skill set will serve me very well there. With that being said, I wasn't recruited. Damn sure wasn't recruited like LeBron! Without special circumstances, 99.5% of us will never experience any recruitment similar to that.
You know what though? I want to be heavily recruited at least one time in my life! I know that my odds increase tremendously with a college degree. That is why I am working (again) towards a college degree. Maybe it's an ego thing for me...so what! Because I am "uneducated," I've been turned down many times from jobs I would have been great at.
It's one thing to have a particular skill set and it is another thing to have tangible proof that you possess a skill set. Because of my personality and laid back demeanor, there are those who think I've received everything I ever wanted. That couldn't be further from the truth. I very rarely show that I'm down, if I'm feeling that way, so folks assume that everything is okay with me...all the time. The silver medal has been draped around my neck plenty of times. Imagine someone telling you how great you are, but without a degree, they cannot hire you.
Maybe it will never happen, but I want to be wined and dined one day and offered an opportunity they others would kill for. Then again, there are those who'd kill to be in my current position (I have to keep that in mind). So although I am grateful for my blessings, I'm working hard to be recognized as a talent, worthy enough to be sought after. We shall see.
I really appreciate the new readers, as well as those who've been reading since day one. If you keep reading, I'll keep writing.
The Recruit - As I look at all the craziness surrounding LeBron James and where he'll play basketball for the next 5-6 years, I imagine what it would be like to be recruited. I am starting a new job in the coming weeks where I'll be working with folks who are looking to enter/reenter the workforce. I am very thankful for the opportunity and I believe my skill set will serve me very well there. With that being said, I wasn't recruited. Damn sure wasn't recruited like LeBron! Without special circumstances, 99.5% of us will never experience any recruitment similar to that.
You know what though? I want to be heavily recruited at least one time in my life! I know that my odds increase tremendously with a college degree. That is why I am working (again) towards a college degree. Maybe it's an ego thing for me...so what! Because I am "uneducated," I've been turned down many times from jobs I would have been great at.
It's one thing to have a particular skill set and it is another thing to have tangible proof that you possess a skill set. Because of my personality and laid back demeanor, there are those who think I've received everything I ever wanted. That couldn't be further from the truth. I very rarely show that I'm down, if I'm feeling that way, so folks assume that everything is okay with me...all the time. The silver medal has been draped around my neck plenty of times. Imagine someone telling you how great you are, but without a degree, they cannot hire you.
Maybe it will never happen, but I want to be wined and dined one day and offered an opportunity they others would kill for. Then again, there are those who'd kill to be in my current position (I have to keep that in mind). So although I am grateful for my blessings, I'm working hard to be recognized as a talent, worthy enough to be sought after. We shall see.
I really appreciate the new readers, as well as those who've been reading since day one. If you keep reading, I'll keep writing.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Random Buzz
Random Buzz of the Week
Dear John - Its weird how certain movies bring out certain moods in me. I'm not sure if everyone feels that way, but I immediately start to reflect. I was watching the movie Dear John on Saturday, and I was amazed at how perfect the girl, Savannah, seemed. I started to think about how perfect my wife is. Perfect for me, that is. She's actually too good for me.
When we first met (many years ago), I was amazed at how good of a person she was. It was like she didn't see the bad in any person. Where as I, I saw the bad in everyone. At that point, I realized that we had no future together. I'd been introduced to some harsh truths and it forced me to grow up sooner than most. My wife grew up without the radar for bullspit.
We are very good for one another. I am working on being less skeptical(unsuccessfully mostly), and my wife has developed her radar to deal with those who are less than honest regarding their intentions.
Fourth of July - As Independence Day 2010 nears, I reflect on what independence means to me. As I become much more wiser, and a little older, I have become more interested in current events, and in American history. I have also been more interested in my own family's history. I thank God for the struggles I've been able to face and overcome.
Sometimes a song or movies reveals feelings that I have. I am thankful that I am reminded from time to time of things that may get lost throughout the course of the day. We all should make time to reflect and count our blessings. And if we do not, hopefully, something will force us to take a second to smile.
FYI, I watched that movie, thinking it was an entire different movie. I thought...well who cares I'm happy I watched it.
Dear John - Its weird how certain movies bring out certain moods in me. I'm not sure if everyone feels that way, but I immediately start to reflect. I was watching the movie Dear John on Saturday, and I was amazed at how perfect the girl, Savannah, seemed. I started to think about how perfect my wife is. Perfect for me, that is. She's actually too good for me.
When we first met (many years ago), I was amazed at how good of a person she was. It was like she didn't see the bad in any person. Where as I, I saw the bad in everyone. At that point, I realized that we had no future together. I'd been introduced to some harsh truths and it forced me to grow up sooner than most. My wife grew up without the radar for bullspit.
We are very good for one another. I am working on being less skeptical(unsuccessfully mostly), and my wife has developed her radar to deal with those who are less than honest regarding their intentions.
Fourth of July - As Independence Day 2010 nears, I reflect on what independence means to me. As I become much more wiser, and a little older, I have become more interested in current events, and in American history. I have also been more interested in my own family's history. I thank God for the struggles I've been able to face and overcome.
Sometimes a song or movies reveals feelings that I have. I am thankful that I am reminded from time to time of things that may get lost throughout the course of the day. We all should make time to reflect and count our blessings. And if we do not, hopefully, something will force us to take a second to smile.
FYI, I watched that movie, thinking it was an entire different movie. I thought...well who cares I'm happy I watched it.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Letter to Boo #1
I will be writing to my cousin who is in prison more frequently and decided to share this on my blog. You guys may remember that I've written about Boo on occasion. I hope you guys enjoy.
Dear Boo,
I decided that I would attempt to write you regularly AND publish it on my blog. I'm sure you don't mind. Big Ma passed on Friday June 11. Because she had suffered from dementia for the past few years, along with her health declining, I was relieved that her pain was gone. She woulda been 99 this August. Mack said that Big Ma died like many others would have liked to; in her sleep, resting. The behavior that followed embarrassed me. I will fill you in with details when I see you. In my opinion people almost forgot how important Big Ma and her house was. The selfish people that share my last name, seem so far removed from the loving, give you the shirt off my back, way Big Ma was.
I've been "blogging" for quite a while now. Basically, its just posting your thought on a site. Now many people read it, but there are a few who do. I think the more consistent I blog, the more people will follow. How you been? I wrote you a few months back but I haven't heard from you? What's good? I need to take a day off and come visit. I was looking at some of Big Ma's writings and I realized that I need to do much more myself; be it blogging, poetry, short stories, or just letting you know how things are. I pray for consistency and persistence.
A few things are going on at work that I can't really talk about but my eyes are wide open. Because I'm so laid back, I think some folks don't recognize how aware I am. And my job is not to let them know what I know so... I'll just leave it like that. Hanging out in the Township the past couple of weeks brought back many memories. Me and Nikki was talking about the summers on the porch; playing curbball and hanging with Tasha and Denise. Nobody has talk to Tasha. I hope she is doing okay. Well, I plan on this being the first of many letters. Keep your head up and pop at me when you think about it.
PS- I had one of those dreams a week or so ago where everything seemed so real. Us kicking it, but older and more dangerous (haha).
Chill,
Baxter E.
Dear Boo,
I decided that I would attempt to write you regularly AND publish it on my blog. I'm sure you don't mind. Big Ma passed on Friday June 11. Because she had suffered from dementia for the past few years, along with her health declining, I was relieved that her pain was gone. She woulda been 99 this August. Mack said that Big Ma died like many others would have liked to; in her sleep, resting. The behavior that followed embarrassed me. I will fill you in with details when I see you. In my opinion people almost forgot how important Big Ma and her house was. The selfish people that share my last name, seem so far removed from the loving, give you the shirt off my back, way Big Ma was.
I've been "blogging" for quite a while now. Basically, its just posting your thought on a site. Now many people read it, but there are a few who do. I think the more consistent I blog, the more people will follow. How you been? I wrote you a few months back but I haven't heard from you? What's good? I need to take a day off and come visit. I was looking at some of Big Ma's writings and I realized that I need to do much more myself; be it blogging, poetry, short stories, or just letting you know how things are. I pray for consistency and persistence.
A few things are going on at work that I can't really talk about but my eyes are wide open. Because I'm so laid back, I think some folks don't recognize how aware I am. And my job is not to let them know what I know so... I'll just leave it like that. Hanging out in the Township the past couple of weeks brought back many memories. Me and Nikki was talking about the summers on the porch; playing curbball and hanging with Tasha and Denise. Nobody has talk to Tasha. I hope she is doing okay. Well, I plan on this being the first of many letters. Keep your head up and pop at me when you think about it.
PS- I had one of those dreams a week or so ago where everything seemed so real. Us kicking it, but older and more dangerous (haha).
Chill,
Baxter E.
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Buzz of the Month (Part 1 and 2)
Part 1
Get Up and Do Something - This past weekend was wonderful. The wife and I were able to get away. Removing yourself, physically, from your typical surroundings allows you to "breathe." I think about what I have on my plate these days, and I become very excited. I am not a one-trick pony. I've been put on this earth to do more than "work".
There are those who hate their job. If you work 40+ hours per week, the majority of your time, not sleeping, is at work. If you're not happy at work, it's possible that you are not happy period. What's the solution? Sometimes people are at a job because they have to be. That's fine, but what are you doing about improving your situation? Complaining+No action to resolve=Irritation from those you complain to.
There are things in your power. Take care of those. The rest, leave that up to God. But do your part! Do things that you enjoy and that will leave a positive impact on others and the world. Your job doesn't have to define you. You and your works will define you.
Part 2
The above paragraphs were written in the first week of June. Since then, my Big Ma, has passed away. She would have been 99 years old in August. How can one be sad about somebody living almost 100 years? As I get older, I am starting to understand what is really important to me. I've never had a lot of money, but I've figured out a way to make things work. It's nice to know that my wife loves me for me and not because of what I have. Because if she was looking for someone with the most tangible things, she could have done much, much better.
The legacy that you leave HAS to be more than money. You will ultimately be remembered for how you treated and affected those around you. Don't get me wrong, I plan on being able to provide for my family, but I will not lose sight of my morals for a dollar. There are people that I see everyday who can't see past what want for themselves. If there is another sales person on my team who happens to sell more than me, it will not change my mission for my life. I am starting to realize that there are three major things that I must do in my life; I must continue to strengthen my relationship with God, I must continue to write, and teach and share my experiences with others.
I am not the best writer in the world, but I'm okay and improving. I am not the best orator either. I have a passion for improving this world and that will propel me. I am not looking for any type of fame or fortune. My plans to this point are very simple; be more present of the young people in my life and teach them things that nobody was there to teach me. That is a great start if you ask me. I had been so focused on doing more for the world, but I have enough young people in my family that will benefit from me sharing experiences. Maybe one of them will change the world, but my goal is to give them a different way to view their lives and the purpose here.
Part 1
Get Up and Do Something - This past weekend was wonderful. The wife and I were able to get away. Removing yourself, physically, from your typical surroundings allows you to "breathe." I think about what I have on my plate these days, and I become very excited. I am not a one-trick pony. I've been put on this earth to do more than "work".
There are those who hate their job. If you work 40+ hours per week, the majority of your time, not sleeping, is at work. If you're not happy at work, it's possible that you are not happy period. What's the solution? Sometimes people are at a job because they have to be. That's fine, but what are you doing about improving your situation? Complaining+No action to resolve=Irritation from those you complain to.
There are things in your power. Take care of those. The rest, leave that up to God. But do your part! Do things that you enjoy and that will leave a positive impact on others and the world. Your job doesn't have to define you. You and your works will define you.
Part 2
The above paragraphs were written in the first week of June. Since then, my Big Ma, has passed away. She would have been 99 years old in August. How can one be sad about somebody living almost 100 years? As I get older, I am starting to understand what is really important to me. I've never had a lot of money, but I've figured out a way to make things work. It's nice to know that my wife loves me for me and not because of what I have. Because if she was looking for someone with the most tangible things, she could have done much, much better.
The legacy that you leave HAS to be more than money. You will ultimately be remembered for how you treated and affected those around you. Don't get me wrong, I plan on being able to provide for my family, but I will not lose sight of my morals for a dollar. There are people that I see everyday who can't see past what want for themselves. If there is another sales person on my team who happens to sell more than me, it will not change my mission for my life. I am starting to realize that there are three major things that I must do in my life; I must continue to strengthen my relationship with God, I must continue to write, and teach and share my experiences with others.
I am not the best writer in the world, but I'm okay and improving. I am not the best orator either. I have a passion for improving this world and that will propel me. I am not looking for any type of fame or fortune. My plans to this point are very simple; be more present of the young people in my life and teach them things that nobody was there to teach me. That is a great start if you ask me. I had been so focused on doing more for the world, but I have enough young people in my family that will benefit from me sharing experiences. Maybe one of them will change the world, but my goal is to give them a different way to view their lives and the purpose here.
Monday, May 31, 2010
Buzz of the Week (Originally Posted on May 31, 2010)
#BaxtersBuzz
Go and out and see the world! That would be my advice, though I have yet to follow it. I've never done much traveling. My Dad never took me out of town and never promised to do so. I didn't think much of it. He was in his mid 4o's when I was born, so he'd done much of his traveling. He was in the Army, serving in the Korean War, and being stationed in multiple locations during his time.
I was always surprised when my friends would be traveling. They'd say, "We're going to Florida." I'd be like, "Really!?" I would just stay around town and think nothing of it. Sure, my Dad would take me up north to Baldwin, MI. I'd go visit my family in Ohio. And that was pretty much it. This "not traveling" stuff is going to end this stinkin' year!
I believe exposing children to different things early gives opens their eyes to the possibilities of the world. Whether it's traveling, volunteering time, or talking about expectations at dinner , children who are able to experience that see things through a different set of eyes. I'm 29 years old and have learned things this year that many teenagers have known since they were tykes. Typically, you can link certain experiences (or lack of experiences) to family income. There are exceptions. Overall, those with money are commonly exposed to more. Children who don't leave their surroundings, may not understand that there is so much more in the world. I was in Farmington Hills this past weekend watching my 10 year old twin nephews play baseball. They were the only 2 black kids on their team. Heck, I think there were 4 total of the 4 teams playing. Exposure is what is most important. Resources and exposure are very important to the development of us all.
Meeting a person who's in a profession we'd like to pursue or seeing people from our neighborhood become a productive member of society breeds confidence and inspires. Maybe if young kids, especially from the inner cities, could turn on the television and see lawyers doctors, or engineers instead of athletes and musicians, there would be more children looking to emulate them. What does this all mean? I'm not sure. It all comes down to everyone doing their part by going out of their way to invest in our children. I'm attempting to do more. Who will do the same?
Go and out and see the world! That would be my advice, though I have yet to follow it. I've never done much traveling. My Dad never took me out of town and never promised to do so. I didn't think much of it. He was in his mid 4o's when I was born, so he'd done much of his traveling. He was in the Army, serving in the Korean War, and being stationed in multiple locations during his time.
I was always surprised when my friends would be traveling. They'd say, "We're going to Florida." I'd be like, "Really!?" I would just stay around town and think nothing of it. Sure, my Dad would take me up north to Baldwin, MI. I'd go visit my family in Ohio. And that was pretty much it. This "not traveling" stuff is going to end this stinkin' year!
I believe exposing children to different things early gives opens their eyes to the possibilities of the world. Whether it's traveling, volunteering time, or talking about expectations at dinner , children who are able to experience that see things through a different set of eyes. I'm 29 years old and have learned things this year that many teenagers have known since they were tykes. Typically, you can link certain experiences (or lack of experiences) to family income. There are exceptions. Overall, those with money are commonly exposed to more. Children who don't leave their surroundings, may not understand that there is so much more in the world. I was in Farmington Hills this past weekend watching my 10 year old twin nephews play baseball. They were the only 2 black kids on their team. Heck, I think there were 4 total of the 4 teams playing. Exposure is what is most important. Resources and exposure are very important to the development of us all.
Meeting a person who's in a profession we'd like to pursue or seeing people from our neighborhood become a productive member of society breeds confidence and inspires. Maybe if young kids, especially from the inner cities, could turn on the television and see lawyers doctors, or engineers instead of athletes and musicians, there would be more children looking to emulate them. What does this all mean? I'm not sure. It all comes down to everyone doing their part by going out of their way to invest in our children. I'm attempting to do more. Who will do the same?
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Baxter's Buzz
Buzz of the Week
Slow and Steady - This past week has been refreshing for me. My online class started last week and I am very excited to see how I perform. Not how I perform in the class per se, but how I structure my time. Organized is something that I am working very hard to be. I have improved greatly, but I still have a long way to go. I am planning to take more classes online IF I'm able to manage my time. I feel like the more idle time I have, the less productive I am... sometimes.... That drives me mad, but nobody can change it but me. So my plan is: One class this spring, two classes this summer, and three to four classes this fall. That plan is contingent on me taking care of my business and being organized.
My networking group (Greenmen Group) has planned our first mixer/meet and greet for the beginning of next month. We are trying to recruit new members to become part of what we are building. Slow and steady wins the race. We have been meeting at least once a month since September of 2008. There have been people who had the best ideas in the world, but they are no longer involved. Don't come in here with all these great ideas with no idea how to execute, and worse yet, no even following through.
I have failed at a few things in my lifen (maybe more than a few) and the biggest reason for my failure is having too big of an idea with no way to quantify or measure progress. Since we've started meeting, I have labeled myself the "rain on the parade"guy. I wanted to make sure that we continued to take baby steps and remain consistent in our effort. That way we didn't just attempt to "one up" each other's ideas without a way to see it through.
Well, I am excited because things are taking shape and our diligence has paid off. This approach works when you have long-term and (sometimes more important) short-term goals. This group has been a great example for me to follow in my personal life. Taking one class doesn't seem like much, but when you've been out of school as long as I have, one class is a great start.
You will reap what you sow. If you want a small crop or two to pop up, be "iffy" with your effort. If you want a full harvest, have a plan in place and execute it. Consistency is what separates us many times. One of my good friends told me just recently, "Don't worry about the time you've already wasted, just understand that you don't have anymore time to waste."
Set your goals, short and long termed. Create a plan of execution. And get after it.
Slow and Steady - This past week has been refreshing for me. My online class started last week and I am very excited to see how I perform. Not how I perform in the class per se, but how I structure my time. Organized is something that I am working very hard to be. I have improved greatly, but I still have a long way to go. I am planning to take more classes online IF I'm able to manage my time. I feel like the more idle time I have, the less productive I am... sometimes.... That drives me mad, but nobody can change it but me. So my plan is: One class this spring, two classes this summer, and three to four classes this fall. That plan is contingent on me taking care of my business and being organized.
My networking group (Greenmen Group) has planned our first mixer/meet and greet for the beginning of next month. We are trying to recruit new members to become part of what we are building. Slow and steady wins the race. We have been meeting at least once a month since September of 2008. There have been people who had the best ideas in the world, but they are no longer involved. Don't come in here with all these great ideas with no idea how to execute, and worse yet, no even following through.
I have failed at a few things in my lifen (maybe more than a few) and the biggest reason for my failure is having too big of an idea with no way to quantify or measure progress. Since we've started meeting, I have labeled myself the "rain on the parade"guy. I wanted to make sure that we continued to take baby steps and remain consistent in our effort. That way we didn't just attempt to "one up" each other's ideas without a way to see it through.
Well, I am excited because things are taking shape and our diligence has paid off. This approach works when you have long-term and (sometimes more important) short-term goals. This group has been a great example for me to follow in my personal life. Taking one class doesn't seem like much, but when you've been out of school as long as I have, one class is a great start.
You will reap what you sow. If you want a small crop or two to pop up, be "iffy" with your effort. If you want a full harvest, have a plan in place and execute it. Consistency is what separates us many times. One of my good friends told me just recently, "Don't worry about the time you've already wasted, just understand that you don't have anymore time to waste."
Set your goals, short and long termed. Create a plan of execution. And get after it.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Buzz of the Week
What Do I Owe You? - Do public figures like athletes and entertainers have a responsibility to speak up about anything? I mentioned last week the law in Arizona essentially, giving police officers the right to racially profile. 2011's MLB all star game is in AZ. There was a particular player (Adrian Gonzalez of the San Diego Padres) that said he'd boycott the game. There were people who said they'd boycott him and the team he plays for. Wow! If you are an athlete, should you not have an opinion? The show that I was watching (Mike and Mike in the morning) applauded those notoriously un-involved athletes like Michael Jordan, Derek Jeter, and Tiger Woods. Now there will be some that mention their charities and how much money they give. Kudos to them, but is that enough? Imagine the impact Jordan or Woods could have if they made statements that tackled important social issues in America and all over the world. Imagine the effect on the youth that look up to these guys. Also, imagine the future stars who grew up idolizing them, who felt like it was their responsibility to also speak up when they had a platform to do so. Us "regular" folks should do more also.
We all have a responsibility to be well informed and reach out and make one another more aware.
I stopped blogging for a long time because I was so frustrated about what was going on in my life. I didn't want to share certain feelings for fear I may come across entirely negative. I also didn't want to share certain views fearing that somehow my job or future job could be in jeopardy.
I have not been sent here to be some one's robot. I have an opinion, and I plan to share it with those who care to listen. Many times when you're young, you don't speak up as much as you'd like because you haven't developed the confidence. Then you get older and you have more responsibilities (i.e., spouse, mortgage, children) and you are afraid to speak your mind, afraid that you may lose your ability to support/pay for these things. So you keep all these things pent up until you become old. Then you become that old dude that nobody likes because they don't think before they speak.
In my opinion, that is no way to live. My very first job, I worked with a lovely lady named Faye. She would always say, "You were eating before you got here, you'll be eating when you leave." Needless to say, Faye wasn't afraid to speak her mind. You can't say everything that comes to your mind. Don't get me wrong. But there are those who bet on you not speaking up and that is how they take advantage of you. It is a very thin line and your reaction to events should be considered on a case-by-case basis. Our responsibility is to those who have come before us and those who will come after us.
Sports Buzz
Loooong Goooone! - I'd just like to say rest in peace, Ernie Harwell. He has been such an important part of so many people's lives. I am always amazed at the stories that people have of him. He seemed like the definition of a class act. If we all would treat those around us like Ernie Harwell treated people, the world would be a much better place.
Also, I'd like to wish everyone a happy mother's day! There are woman working 2 and 3 jobs, trying to provide for their family. There are also men playing the role of mom and dad. Shout out to them all! May God bless them and their families.
I appreciate the 4 people (including myself) who visit and read my blog. As long as you keep reading (even if you don't), I'll keep writing.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
I'm Back Buzzing
Baxter's Buzz
Well, I've never stopped buzzing. I just stopped sharing. My plan is to have a weekly blog that touches on a number of topics that I've thought about during the week.
Peter Pan - There are so many "Peter Pans" out there that don't want to grow up. How does that effect the people around them? Children, family, and friends are all affected by our actions. I know people who are doing things almost identically to what they've done historically. Whether it's shunning responsibilities or just making silly choices. There are those out there sleeping around with anyone that will sleep with them. There are people selling drugs. More are using drugs. These are extreme examples. Maybe it doesn't hit home with everyone.
What about not looking for a job because you're receiving unemployment? What about expecting people to be available when you need them, but being absent in their lives? What about complaining so much about things, that people don't want to answer the phone when you call? What about blaming others for things that you can control? Are we on the same page yet? Good.
We all make mistakes. I make mistake pretty much every day. I believe that you separate yourself from the pack by learning from and correcting the mistakes you make. The phrase is "Know better, do better," but it's easier said than done. Bad habits die hard and doing the right thing is always tougher than doing wrong. We all want these great things, but not willing to put in the work. There are great sacrifices necessary to achieve great things.
What will change for you this year? Anything? Nothing? Everything? I believe that if you trust in God, and sow the right seeds, you'll be fine. Things won't be perfect, but you'll understand what is truly in your control and what isn't. It's like when you were a child and your parents wanted you to keep your room clean, do your homework, and miscellaneous chores. They did everything else. We had faith that they'd take care of us and while we didn't get everything that we wanted, they had our best interest at hand... I hope you understand the metaphor.
Ridiculousness of the Week
Papers, Please - There was a law passed in Arizona this past week that essentially allows police officers to stop any person that has a "reasonable suspicion" of being in the U.S. illegally. There's no provision of probable cause so the police have been given the green light to racially profile. Please correct me if I'm wrong, but Arizona is still part of the U.S., and that goes against all that we stand for. Can anyone say Nazi Germany?
Sports Buzz
Forever Young - If you've read my blogs, you know that I am a sports fan. Earlier in the blog, I talked about those people who don't want to grow up. I am a firm believer in giving people opportunities. I look at the first month of the Detroit Tigers season and I see 3-4 rookies in the starting lineup on any given day. Yes, they are going to make mistakes, but if they are truly the future...the future is now. I look how the Detroit Pistons had 3 rookies on their team that didn't get as many opportunities and I disagree with that approach. I am much more tolerant of rookies and young players making mistakes compared to predictable mediocrity from veterans. I look at the Tigers and wish the Pistons would have done more "on the job training." You take your lumps, learn, and move on. That is in sports and in life.
Happy New Years
On April 16, I celebrated my 29th birthday (Praise the Lord). I consider that my new years. I look at my life and I believe I have much more to give. I want to make an impact on this world before my number is called. I don't need fame or anything. I am just hopeful that I can do my part. Every day is another opportunity. There are people who didn't wake up this morning. There are people who never made it to the age that you are now. Let's be inspired by that and just do our part. If any just does their part, I think we'd be surprise at the progress we could make.
Well, I've never stopped buzzing. I just stopped sharing. My plan is to have a weekly blog that touches on a number of topics that I've thought about during the week.
Peter Pan - There are so many "Peter Pans" out there that don't want to grow up. How does that effect the people around them? Children, family, and friends are all affected by our actions. I know people who are doing things almost identically to what they've done historically. Whether it's shunning responsibilities or just making silly choices. There are those out there sleeping around with anyone that will sleep with them. There are people selling drugs. More are using drugs. These are extreme examples. Maybe it doesn't hit home with everyone.
What about not looking for a job because you're receiving unemployment? What about expecting people to be available when you need them, but being absent in their lives? What about complaining so much about things, that people don't want to answer the phone when you call? What about blaming others for things that you can control? Are we on the same page yet? Good.
We all make mistakes. I make mistake pretty much every day. I believe that you separate yourself from the pack by learning from and correcting the mistakes you make. The phrase is "Know better, do better," but it's easier said than done. Bad habits die hard and doing the right thing is always tougher than doing wrong. We all want these great things, but not willing to put in the work. There are great sacrifices necessary to achieve great things.
What will change for you this year? Anything? Nothing? Everything? I believe that if you trust in God, and sow the right seeds, you'll be fine. Things won't be perfect, but you'll understand what is truly in your control and what isn't. It's like when you were a child and your parents wanted you to keep your room clean, do your homework, and miscellaneous chores. They did everything else. We had faith that they'd take care of us and while we didn't get everything that we wanted, they had our best interest at hand... I hope you understand the metaphor.
Ridiculousness of the Week
Papers, Please - There was a law passed in Arizona this past week that essentially allows police officers to stop any person that has a "reasonable suspicion" of being in the U.S. illegally. There's no provision of probable cause so the police have been given the green light to racially profile. Please correct me if I'm wrong, but Arizona is still part of the U.S., and that goes against all that we stand for. Can anyone say Nazi Germany?
Sports Buzz
Forever Young - If you've read my blogs, you know that I am a sports fan. Earlier in the blog, I talked about those people who don't want to grow up. I am a firm believer in giving people opportunities. I look at the first month of the Detroit Tigers season and I see 3-4 rookies in the starting lineup on any given day. Yes, they are going to make mistakes, but if they are truly the future...the future is now. I look how the Detroit Pistons had 3 rookies on their team that didn't get as many opportunities and I disagree with that approach. I am much more tolerant of rookies and young players making mistakes compared to predictable mediocrity from veterans. I look at the Tigers and wish the Pistons would have done more "on the job training." You take your lumps, learn, and move on. That is in sports and in life.
Happy New Years
On April 16, I celebrated my 29th birthday (Praise the Lord). I consider that my new years. I look at my life and I believe I have much more to give. I want to make an impact on this world before my number is called. I don't need fame or anything. I am just hopeful that I can do my part. Every day is another opportunity. There are people who didn't wake up this morning. There are people who never made it to the age that you are now. Let's be inspired by that and just do our part. If any just does their part, I think we'd be surprise at the progress we could make.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Rumble, Young Man Rumble!
Buzz of the Day
I got something in the mail today about all the black history events that are going on at the local library. One particular thing stood out to me. They were talking about the abolition of slavery and to contemplate the challenging legacy of slavery in America. The legacy of slavery. There is definitely one, whether we choose to accept it or not. I don't believe it should be a built-in excuse, but it can't be totally disregarded either.
What is my responsibility as a black man? I consider myself a productive member of society. I pay my taxes, give pedestrians the right-of-way. I even laugh at jokes that ain't funny just to be polite. What else is required of me?
I know as a Christian, I am to walk in line to what the Holy Bible teaches. I am supposed to share the gospel to those around me. My plan is to prepare for eternity and not this momentary time on earth.
But while I'm on earth, what should I be doing. As a black man?
I feel a HUGE responsibility to be civil. To show people that a black person knows how to act. To speak in grammatically correct sentences. I don't want someone to not give a black person (or any minority for that matter) a chance because I skewed their image. I want people to not look at me as a black person whom they respect, but a person that they respect. At the same time, I want them to know that I am black so they give a black person a second look when they are considered for a second interview. I don't want people to think that I'm the only black person who has sense, because I am not. There are many who have much more...much more.
I feel a responsibility to my community as well. To my young (and old) family members. I want to be a positive example to people. I want to teach younger generations their history. I want them to know that 50 years ago, we couldn't even vote! I want them to know that the world has changed, but not as much as we think. I don't want them to feel the pressure of racism, but I do want them to feel the responsibility of representing an entire race. Right or wrong, it is their reality. I want them to be proud of what our ancestors fought for. To be grateful for the sacrifices that were made. The sacrifices that continue to be made on a regular basis.
Chris Rock had a very controversial stand up routine when he talked about the difference between "niggas" and black people. People were up in arms. Sometimes, white people are quick to call someone "white trash." They are basically saying that to separate themselves from a particular behavior. Many times, these same people throw all black people in the same pot. For some reason we are all the same. I carry that with me every-single-day. It's hard enough being a human being with all the different emotions and things we have going on. Imagine feeling like if you do one thing that is "questionable," you set your entire race back.
I wish the feelings I have were not true. But they are. People are wondering very often if am I the exception to the rule, or if I am an example of how many people are if you just give them a chance.
Explicit Language Below (But Very Funny)
I got something in the mail today about all the black history events that are going on at the local library. One particular thing stood out to me. They were talking about the abolition of slavery and to contemplate the challenging legacy of slavery in America. The legacy of slavery. There is definitely one, whether we choose to accept it or not. I don't believe it should be a built-in excuse, but it can't be totally disregarded either.
What is my responsibility as a black man? I consider myself a productive member of society. I pay my taxes, give pedestrians the right-of-way. I even laugh at jokes that ain't funny just to be polite. What else is required of me?
I know as a Christian, I am to walk in line to what the Holy Bible teaches. I am supposed to share the gospel to those around me. My plan is to prepare for eternity and not this momentary time on earth.
But while I'm on earth, what should I be doing. As a black man?
I feel a HUGE responsibility to be civil. To show people that a black person knows how to act. To speak in grammatically correct sentences. I don't want someone to not give a black person (or any minority for that matter) a chance because I skewed their image. I want people to not look at me as a black person whom they respect, but a person that they respect. At the same time, I want them to know that I am black so they give a black person a second look when they are considered for a second interview. I don't want people to think that I'm the only black person who has sense, because I am not. There are many who have much more...much more.
I feel a responsibility to my community as well. To my young (and old) family members. I want to be a positive example to people. I want to teach younger generations their history. I want them to know that 50 years ago, we couldn't even vote! I want them to know that the world has changed, but not as much as we think. I don't want them to feel the pressure of racism, but I do want them to feel the responsibility of representing an entire race. Right or wrong, it is their reality. I want them to be proud of what our ancestors fought for. To be grateful for the sacrifices that were made. The sacrifices that continue to be made on a regular basis.
Chris Rock had a very controversial stand up routine when he talked about the difference between "niggas" and black people. People were up in arms. Sometimes, white people are quick to call someone "white trash." They are basically saying that to separate themselves from a particular behavior. Many times, these same people throw all black people in the same pot. For some reason we are all the same. I carry that with me every-single-day. It's hard enough being a human being with all the different emotions and things we have going on. Imagine feeling like if you do one thing that is "questionable," you set your entire race back.
I wish the feelings I have were not true. But they are. People are wondering very often if am I the exception to the rule, or if I am an example of how many people are if you just give them a chance.
Explicit Language Below (But Very Funny)
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Family or Foe?
Buzz of the Day
They say you can't choose your family. Well I've chosen mine. At least half of them.
My mother died when I was in 3rd grade. At that point, I belonged to my father's side of the family, exclusively. Very rarely did I see my mom's side of the family. Very, very rarely.
That's another story. Right around that same time I started to meet friends that I still have to this day. I consider them family. They've been around when nobody else was. We've spent holidays, weekends, and every day in between together. We didn't have many people to give us advice and teach us right from wrong, so we counseled each other.
I've been truly blessed to have brothers from other mothers. As we've gotten older, our relationships have changed. Some have moved away. While others tend to stay away (you know, working and family stuff). Tupac has a line: "And if you need anything at all, I'll drop it all for ya'll when my homies call." I have so called family members that wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire. I'm not saying that all of my family is like that. I just don't agree with those sayings about blood being thicker than water and you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Truth is...My friends are my family and I couldn't get rid of them if I tried.
I am in the process of reaching out to my mom's side of the family. I'm trying to piece some things together and get some questions answered. As I move further away from being a child and move closer to having children of my own, I realize how much of my history that I don't know about. It also seems that nobody will reach out to me if I don't reach out. So I'll do what I have to do to fill in the blanks.
A message to my two readers: Sorry I've been gone so long. I hope to never leave for that long again.
They say you can't choose your family. Well I've chosen mine. At least half of them.
My mother died when I was in 3rd grade. At that point, I belonged to my father's side of the family, exclusively. Very rarely did I see my mom's side of the family. Very, very rarely.
That's another story. Right around that same time I started to meet friends that I still have to this day. I consider them family. They've been around when nobody else was. We've spent holidays, weekends, and every day in between together. We didn't have many people to give us advice and teach us right from wrong, so we counseled each other.
I've been truly blessed to have brothers from other mothers. As we've gotten older, our relationships have changed. Some have moved away. While others tend to stay away (you know, working and family stuff). Tupac has a line: "And if you need anything at all, I'll drop it all for ya'll when my homies call." I have so called family members that wouldn't spit on you if you were on fire. I'm not saying that all of my family is like that. I just don't agree with those sayings about blood being thicker than water and you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Truth is...My friends are my family and I couldn't get rid of them if I tried.
I am in the process of reaching out to my mom's side of the family. I'm trying to piece some things together and get some questions answered. As I move further away from being a child and move closer to having children of my own, I realize how much of my history that I don't know about. It also seems that nobody will reach out to me if I don't reach out. So I'll do what I have to do to fill in the blanks.
A message to my two readers: Sorry I've been gone so long. I hope to never leave for that long again.
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