Negative Nancy

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Last week I was pretty upset because of some double agent/double spy type of stuff going on at work. I can't go into detail because they might be reading...LOL.

Some things were not handled the right way in my view, and couple that with the stress of a tough selling month...I was pretty fired up. It's funny that we know who to talk to when we want to complain. Next thing you know, me and the Negative Nancys were having a great time complaining about what was wrong with the world.

I feel silly just thinking about it now. I take pride in leaving things where they need to be. Meaning if it's in the past, leave it there. But somehow I was caught up in this complaining, moaning, and groaning. So on Monday I was approached by one of the Negative Nancys, trying to rekindle a convo from last week. "I'm done with that." I replied. Nothing else to talk about.

Sometimes we get bogged down by stress and start complaining. If you are not looking for a solution, shut up! If you recognize problems, work on solutions. If you just want to complain and be a Negative Nancy, keep that stuff to yourself. You're bringing everyone down.

I have a relative who complains about their job non stop. This has been for years and years. Whenever I start to complain, I think about this person. "Do I sound like ___." I asked myself. Think about that one person who seems to hate life. Who complains about every-single-thing. Now think about yourself...Are you that person?

Don't Be a Stranger

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I want to thank you for visiting my blog. If this is your first time, or you've visited before, I really appreciate it. I've been thinking how I can get more visitors. I've heard good things from those that read it, but how can I get consistent hits?

Regardless of who reads it, I really enjoy it! I didn't start this blog to have thousands of hits per day, but that would be very cool I must admit.

Maybe I won't get consistent hits unless I write politically charged posts everyday. Until I become a polarizing figure because I'm a conservative/liberal. Until I say Obama is ____. Until there is a blog like Ihatebaxtersbuzz.com because I've attacked the Detroit Lions or Tigers. Until I use a racial slur or alienate a group of people. Until I become sexually explicit or curse like a sailor.

But I'm not going there. I am a regular guy (for the most part). I have all sorts of thoughts and I'll share whatever those thoughts happen to be at that particular time.

I am a newlywed. I've just moved back to the area where I grew up. I have a new job that provides a very good deal of stress and reward. I am almost too aware of my surroundings. And my mind never stops. I am extremely hard on myself. I have all sorts of goals. I know there are many things that I've yet accomplished, that I expect to. I don't know what people expect of me, and I don't care. I am imperfect and not proud of it. I am humble, but I have moments where I believe I am the best thing since sliced bread. Those moments are coupled with moments where I am kicking myself for not doing more. I want to be remembered as a person who changed lives, if only one. I want to inspire other "regular folks" to strive to do more. I want to collaborate with wonderful minds to make a difference.

As you can see, I have a lot going on. Please continue to read my blog. Don't be a stranger. And don't be selfish. If you like my blog, maybe someone else you know will too.

14-3

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I was watching the Michigan State Notre Dame game this weekend and the score was 14-3 (actually it was 13-3 because Notre Dame missed their extra point). It reminded me of last week when the Lions were down to New Orleans 14-3.

Michigan State continued to fight and actually had the lead in the 4th quarter (although they lost). The Lions ended up losing by a ton of points. This is my point: Even if you are down in the game and it doesn't look good, you have a chance.

Games change on one play sometimes. If you are down 14-3, you can score a touchdown and only be down 14-10. But you can also give up another touchdown and be down 21-3. Your outlook will determine how the remainder of the game will go.

Can You Do That Again?

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Please enjoy this throwback blog from May:

I was feeling pretty guilty for taking so long between blogs. I normally blog everyday (I will again because I don't have cable), but lately that hasn't been the case. Two of my friends who follow this blog, have started blogs. (I would shout them out, but I don't know if they're gonna keep it up). My one friend has blogged only once and he's out of work right now.

It's cool to do things, but people always want to know if you can maintain that level and do them again. "Nice shot, but can you make it again?"Or, "That was a huge sale you made. Can you do that again?" The funny thing is, if they don't actually say it, you know that they're thinking it. That has been the most scary thing about my job. I've increased my sales for the last 4 months, which is cool. But I want to have 10, 15, 25 straight years of great performances! I want to do well consistently. I want people to be able to count on my production and what I bring to the table monthly/quarterly/yearly.

I was voted employee of the month for April. I haven't made much fuss because that's not what I do. A friend of mine insisted that I blog about it, but I wasn't sure if I wanted to share. I'm glad I did though because this is all me. Whatever I'm going through, good or bad, I'll share. Sometimes I'm more comfortable sharing bad news because when you share good news, people are trying to pick you apart. "That was a lucky shot." "You had a great selling month, but so did everyone." And if they don't actually say it, they're thinking it.

So I am employee of the month for April. It's nice to be recognized because we all want to receive some sort of recognition. The thing that drives me is...I want to do it again. And when I do...I want to do it again. I want to make sure I'm able to take care of my wife and my kids when they get here. I don't want to have the one great season. I want to have ridiculous numbers and win championships every year (That was a sports metaphor).

The Fish Ain't Bitin'

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I heard a song today that I've never heard in my life. It's by Lamont Dozier called "The Fish Ain't Bitin." The chorus really struck a chord with me:





I'm out here fightin, hungry


The fish ain't bitin'


Life's so frightening


I'm out here stumbling


Broke and crumbling


And nothing's happening


And aye, aye captain





Very interesting. That's how many people feel everyday. Especially these days. I thought it was very fitting for me, being in sales. And when the fish ain't biting, what can you do?

We are approaching a dramatic change to what we do at New Horizons. I say dramatic, but I don't know exactly what will. I imagine it to be somewhat drastic. My manager talked about being a championship team, but I don't think everyone has bought in. Trust me, I'm in. I want to do great things! And when I achieve these great things, that can only be positive for the company I'm employed by.

If the fish ain't biting, I will go after them. I gotta dive in the water with a net, because bills gotta be paid.

What are you thankful for?

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I've been missing in action for the pass couple of days, because the things that I have on my mind can't be shared with everyone. Much of it has to do with work, and I may be crazy but I ain't stupid. Just some things that I've realized, but if you've read previous posts of mine, it's nothing ground breaking or new.

I like my job. Truly. I am very thankful for this opportunity. There are people that I work with that seemingly have no appreciation what-so-ever. It doesn't bother me until their performance affects the "bottom line" at work. And that affects me. In sales we all do our own thing kinda. But at the end of the day, we're on the same team. I guess the bottom line is: I want these people to work harder or find another job! I don't care if they appreciate their job or not.

Times are tough, and most people could complain about at least one thing. I think these complaints are probably legitimate. I also believe that there are many things to be thankful for. If you are reading this blog, you should be thankful. There were people who had plans to read something today. Maybe a blog. Maybe another online publication...but something. And those people didn't make it.

If you have breath in your body, you have another chance! You have another opportunity to right wrongs, heal wounds, and apply what you've learned from the past.

I don't hear it much now (because I try not to be around these people), but I can't stand when someone says, "That's just me. I can't help it." That statement means that you acknowledge that you should be doing something different, but refuse to because "that's just you."

That's terrible. Know better. Do better. Point blank. By you making changes, maybe someone will be inspired. They'll think, "Well if Baxter can change, maybe I can." Maybe it's your children, nieces, or nephews. And if nobody else decides to change. So what?! You've done your part. That's what's most important.

With the first pick...

Baxter's Buzz

I watched a lot of the NFL draft this weekend. These young men's lives were changed when their names were called. Wow! One day, you're a former college kid, the next day, you're a rich, rich guy... I started thinking how cool it would be to know at a particular moment your life has changed (financially). Do us regular folks have one defining moment like that?

I think some of us do have moments like that. Just not on that large of a scale.

Our moment comes when we're staying late and the boss walks out of the office at the same time and acknowledges us.

Our moment comes when you have a presentation and you knock it out the park. Our moment comes when we're recruited by a fortune 500 company.

Our moment comes when we are offered the vice president position.

Our moment comes when we decide to go back to school, start our own business, or apply for that dream position; thats when we make our own moment.

Changes Are Coming

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This morning I'm up and ready to go. I hear there will be some changes at work. The leadership will "huddle up" and determine what stays in regards to ideology. And maybe even who stays.

I feel good about the work I'm putting in, although it doesn't always show in results. Some people have the results with empty effort attached to it. How does management know the difference? Sometimes I look around and think, "They have to know that so and so is a ____." But then sometimes I doubt if they know. And then I realize that I really don't care.

I want everyone to succeed at my job because that means that the company is doing well. There was a girl who had a big deal close yesterday and I was genuinely excited. I was telling a co-worker about it and they were very salty. "I wish it was me." is what they said. "Well maybe her deal keeps you with a job another month." I replied. "I've never thought about it like that." Was their answer.

Of course I want to be the best! I want my bosses to know that I work very hard. I don't want to bring anyone down...necessarily. If they are comparing my performance with someone else, and that person seems to be slacking, oh well. But under no circumstance do I see myself going out of my way just to hate on somebody. I think that most people hate on others because it keeps the attention off of what they're doing...or not doing.

Yes, I want a bigger piece of the pie. But I also have a set of expectations for myself. I truly feel I'm heading in the right direction. Last month was so difficult because my numbers were down. And I had been extremely consistent for several consecutive months. What can you do? Jump back on your horse and keep riding. Just know, things are changing all the time. From expectations to the way in which you go about achieving those expectations.

Self evaluate. Make changes were needed. And if you don't, they will be made for you.

It All Starts With an Idea

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Yesterday, I talked about us citizens who've voted these people into office. Our voices together, along with organization can do great things. But it takes so much effort. Effort that we feel can be used doing "other things." Well, those other things become surfing the net, watching television, and sitting on our behinds.

We all have some influence. But we'd have much more if we coordinated and worked together. These words that you're reading ain't ground breaking at all. But sometimes we need to be reminded of those simple things.

There is a new girl at my job. We spoke briefly yesterday. Just small-talk about the radio. I told her that we hear the same songs all day long. She said, "Well, what have you guys done? Have you written a letter or sent an email?" I said, "Actually, we've sent a couple of emails." That seemed to satisfy her because she replied, "Well, good. I hate when people complain about something, but they don't do anything to change it." And that comment seemed to satisfy me!

There are so many "back-seat drivers" and "Monday morning quarterbacks". Criticize from afar, but they don't have the guts to change. Or even make steps toward change.

It all starts with an idea. Then a plan has to be developed. Then action. Rinse, and repeat as often as needed.

Fair Weather Fans?

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Happy holidays...again. I'm going through some sort of holiday hangover so I apologize for not posting consistently. I'll be back everyday...I promise.

As you may or may not know, Detroit Lions fans are buzzing about the new quarterback, Matt Stafford. One of the radio guys spoke yesterday about he didn't like the selection of Stafford, but he'll be rooting for him because Detroit needs a winning football team. I thought he made a great point. But it got me to thinking: Are Republicans rooting for Obama to fail so they can say, "I told you so." I think the answer is yes for many of them.

If they most qualified candidate in my opinion happens to be a Republican, I'll vote for him/her. If the person that I vote for doesn't win the election, I will be behind that person and this country regardless because: WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM!

I don't think people think of it that way. We are all affected by what happens, not just the Democrats or just the Republicans. We should question things that we don't think is right, but we should keep an open mind. We put these "public servants" in office, but at times, we forget. And many times, these government officials, all the way to the local level forget it was us who put them where they are. Power to the People! Speak up. Ask questions. We are in this together and are main goal shouldn't be to wish failure on our government, regardless of who has the majority vote in Congress.

Outside Influence

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Happy holidays to all. I've been thinking about this topic for a while, but I didn't know how to put it into words: Are there people who are directly/indirectly affecting your life, but they have no idea? Normally it's one of friend's boyfriend/girlfriend. They put this person through so much drama, that it affects your relationship with your friend. Well, I have one that is slightly different. My mother-in-law is dating someone and I have to hear about every time he does something, because my mother-in-law tells my wife.

He seems like a decent guy. I've met him several times. But now, I don't really like the guy! He's made some critical comments about me to my mother-in-law. Nothing too bad. I figure, he's an old guy, and that's what old people do. They question things, so it never bothered me. But when he says things or does things that upset my wife's mom, then I have a problem. Because my wife hears about it, and then I have to hear about it.

I saw him a few weeks ago and I tried to be polite, And I was. But I think he felt some of the resentment that I have for him. This guy has no idea of the crap I have to hear about because of him. And more importantly, my wife's mom is s wonderful person and I don't like when she's not being taken care of.

How do you treat someone when you know things about them that you shouldn't? We all are far from perfect, so you can't hold that against them. But once you know something, how can you act like you don't? I don't know if there really is a right answer.

I understand that I'm flawed. Trust me. I beat myself up all the time. I guess the bottom line is this: I will do my best to treat everyone with respect, because I make mistakes every day. As long as they show respect to me and my loved ones, that's all one can ask for. You don't know what people do behind closed doors, and if you do know... it's okay. As long as they're not abusing people, killing, or committing some other crime, I'm going do my best to be cool.

We shouldn't be upset about who others are dating, it's they're choice. If they are okay with it, so be it. I have my own home to worry about.

Take Care of your Business

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Recently, I talked about having balance. Having other things going on so you don't feel so bogged down by that "one thing" in your life. I talked about doing things outside of work to obtain/maintain some balance.

Another thing that is extremely important is knowing your business, and taking care of your business.

These are two different things: Knowing your business at work is vital. You need to have an understanding of what goes on at your place of employment. I'm an account executive. I have a "book of business" that I manage. It is an absolute must that I understand the organizations that I provide training solutions to. How can I recommend a solution if I don't understand their business needs? I also must understand how things work within my own organization. From an operational standpoint, I must know the expectations of everyone.

Understand your business! Don't come in there with tunnel vision, because you will be lost regarding the grand scheme of things. Learn as much as you can. That's how you improve your performance and make yourself more valuable, and maximize your experience.

The second part of that is taking care of your own business. I will work all day, completing/submitting proposal for clients, making phone calls, and attending meetings. But when I get home, I don't feel like blogging or working on other projects not associated with work.

Not cool...We have to set aside time to do things that we need to do for ourselves! When you hear those financial advisers, they talk about "paying yourself first." The same thing applies to ventures outside of work. Dedicate time to yourself as if you were working for yourself. It sounds simple enough huh? However, we neglect ourselves and break our back for our employer.

I wrote a few lines in 2002 that explain it very well:

Promises are the hardest when they're made to ourselves,
But we break our back for the man cuz we gotta pay the bills.

The moral of the story is this: Stay on top of your game. Know what you're doing at work so you can understand the big picture, not just your picture. Take time for yourself and if you have projects away from work, give them the same effort as you would if it was for work.

Do You Ever Wish?

Ridiculousness of the Day

Man, this is a great story: The Associated Press that a 61 year old man, annoyed with a crying baby in Wal-Mart slapped the 2 year old 4 times! He told the mother of the child who was crying, "Shut that baby up, or I'll shut her up myself." After he hit the baby at least 4 times, he said, "See I told you I'd shut her up."

How many times have you wanted to do the same thing? I always think the parent should be hit because he/she is allowing this. But you don't go around hitting some one's baby! That old man needs to get a whooping after that though. Funny. Very funny but wrong. : 0

10-year Reunion

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Man o Man... I'm having a problem. I had second thoughts about sharing this post. I didn't want anyone to read it and be persuaded. But this is what I'm buzzing about:

I have been looking forward to my reunion. I think it will be good to see people, network, and all that good stuff. But when I realized that it would be $50 per person or $100 per couple, I really was forced to evaluate how high of a priority it is.

The good thing is I can afford the $100 for my wife and I. I just know many other things that could go towards. With the sacrifices that we've made with cable and all that stuff, it seems a little foolish. I've gone back and forth with the decision. One of my good friends is on the planning committee and he believes there are those looking forward to seeing me. I'm sure there are a few, because there are a few people that I'd like to see (actually many more than a few). I just don't think it would be life or death for anyone. As a matter of fact, I know it wouldn't be.

We've made many sacrifices in the Hall household! I don't have cable for the first time in my life, just to name one that people can identify with.

What does this $100 dollars include? 2 diners and and 4 drinks for 2 people...In my opinion, not enough to warrant $50 per person. Especially these days. Part of me feels guilty for considering skipping this thing. There are just things that we'd like to add to our apartment that seem more important to me.

I think about going to this thing, and talking to the people that I already talk to frequently. I think about trying to see so many people and chat, that I end up neglecting my beautiful wife, and essentially paying $100 for my wife to be mad at me.

I also think about seeing wonderful friends that I haven't kept in touch with. Networking and redeveloping friendships that were lost 10 years ago. I think about the memories of this particular night and the memories that we'll share from high school. I think about finding my next business partner! All great things. But how much is that worth? What do you think?

What is Friendship Worth?

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What sort of thing can end a friendship? Money? Women? What about accusations?

We have basically one neighbor in our apartment building. Just so happens that my wife and our neighbor went to the same high school. She seems like a nice girl. Her and my wife didn't remember each other from school, but they had mutual friends.

They started to become close that she asked my wife to check in on her kitten while she went out of town. My wife went into our neighbor's apartment to feed the kitten and when she had packages (she always has something coming from online shopping) my wife would put them in the kitchen.

Everything went well the first time, but the second time she asked my wife to check on "Annabelle," there was a certain package that never came. UPS told our neighbor that the package was left at the apartment...So she asked my wife about it. My wife didn't see a package, and was pretty offended by the question.

Can you blame our neighbor for asking? I don't think so. Can you blame my wife for being offended? Nope....So where do we go from here?

Well, a pretty uncomfortable meeting anytime they meet in the hallway. It's obvious things are not the same, but how does one repair this relationship? It takes one person to apologize. One person to say, "Hey we should talk." But if the relationship didn't get a chance to really grow, so now, it's nothing. There wasn't enough history. The foundation wasn't strong enough. No more invites to the bar. No more visits to see how things are. And definitely no more checking on Annabelle.

Are you being the stubborn one in broken friendship? Are you able to repair things with a call, but too proud to do so? We've been here for just over a year, so the bond between my wife and our neighbor hadn't been created.

But we treat family and good friends that way sometimes, and those bonds are from 10's of years.

I guess the question is: What's it worth to you?

BTW, my wife didn't steal her package. And no I don't know what ever happened...LOL

This One's for You

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Don't put all your eggs in one basket. We hear that all the time. But it's tough not to. There are only so many hours in a day. When it comes to doing things for ourselves, many times those things are put on the back burner.

The other day I had a pretty tough day at work. Frustrated by some things that were going on, I left pretty unhappy. Fortunately for me, I was on my way to my networking group (Shout out to Greenmen Group). It is a group that I started close to a year ago. We are there to share resources, use each other as a sounding board for ideas, and be active in community service projects. We have been very careful about not putting the cart before the horse. "Baby steps" is the term I use frequently. The foundation has to be strong, and I feel very good about where it's going.

This group is something that started from an idea. Something that has developed into something that all of the members are excited about. That's a good feeling. If this were not the day I had a meeting, I could have come home and had a terrible evening. Shoot, I could have waken up on the wrong side of the bed the following day (Don't act like I'm the only one who work does that to from time to time). Diversify. You need other projects besides work, because work will take over you life if you let it. As you all know, those people you report to at work will have no problem with your life revolving around them.

I leave work typically around 5 (Usually a little later). Depending on the day, I will go to sleep about 10pm or so. I have 5 hours between when I leave work and when I go to sleep. To go home and complain or pout about work is a waste of time. Pull out that to-do list, find a hobby, or find a group or club. Get some balance in your life.

To finish my story: After our meeting, a friend and I met our significant others at a fashion show (Shout out to Femilia). One of the designers is a girl that we went to school with. It was a regular old weeknight, but we turned it into our night. We did things that we wanted to do and gave ourselves some time.

When I returned to work the next day, I had a better perspective. Although it seems like life and death, most of the time it is not.

Bumper Sticker

"To have a reason to get up in the morning, it is necessary to possess a guiding principle."

That is the first line in the Novel "Ordinary People." He goes on to talk about everyone having a bumper sticker for their lives. A reason to get up in the morning. Sometime that gets you jumping out of the bed excited for the day as opposed to crawling out the bed moaning about how you hate your life.

I think that sometimes people forget their vision. Sometimes we get so caught up in the scenery, that we forget our destination. I believe that people lose themselves inside of their life. The routine of life can make us dull. We need to get excited! We need to dream. We need to look forward to things, even if they don't all come to fruition.

If you don't have a bumper sticker, find one! Find one. I beg of you!

Democrats and Republicans

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Below, I am going to share words from a Chris Rock comedy show from years ago:



"The whole country's got a f*ked up mentality. We all got a gang mentality. Republicans are f*king idiots. Democrats are f*king idiots. Conservatives are idiots and liberals are idiots.
Anyone who makes up their mind before they hear the issue is a f*king fool.

Everybody, nah, nah, nah, everybody is so busy wanting to be down with a gang! I'm a conservative! I'm a liberal! I'm a conservative! It's bulls*t!

Be a f*king person. Listen. Let it swirl around your head. Then form your opinion.
No normal decent person is one thing. OK!?! I got some s*t I'm conservative about, I got some s*t I'm liberal about. Crime - I'm conservative. Prostitution - I'm liberal."

I think that is an excellent point that Rock makes. People need to open up their eyes and criticize their party when their party deserves it. They also need to give the opposing party credit when it is deserved. What do you think?

R.I.P. Senator Edward Kennedy

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone Part 2

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When we arrived at the church where Ezra was preaching, it was a strange feeling. We were hanging with the preacher of the day. The man of the hour. I am pretty sure the members who greeted us thought we were ministers also. Umm, not exactly.

We walk into the church and it is totally packed! We went from being in the back of a half filled church to the front of a church that was at capacity. I definitely was not expecting that. I kept hearing the woman's voice, "Get out of your comfort zone." And there I was, totally out of my comfort zone. It felt good. It feels good to be where you need to be.

Ezra's sermon was titled 'Extreme Makeover.' He talked about people knowing they needed changes in their lives, but not taking action. He talked about how we hide in crowds so that we blend in. It is so easy to do things together, and if we do the right things, we may end up by ourselves. And most of us are not strong enough to stand alone.

When you attend church, why do you always feel like the sermon is especially for you? LOL.

I haven't been at peace lately. Things in my life didn't feel right. I knew that spiritually, I wasn't where I needed to be. And now I am responsible for my wife and her spirituality.

I started to feel the weight of the world on me. I couldn't handle it all myself. You can't pick and choose when to let God direct you. God has to always be at the center....Ok, I'm done. He's going to do the driving, and I'll ride shotgun, back seat, wherever I need to be.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone Part 1

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Church. Religion. There is nothing that divides people more. I do not attend church often, and I plan on changing that. Don't worry, I won't start preaching to you guys...Well, no more than I already do. LOL. It is a dynamic that I want to touch on this week. This will be a perspective that many of you can relate to. Enjoy!

A very good friend of mine is a preacher. He has been filling in for a pastor who has been very ill. He basically runs the church like the pastor would. Two weeks ago he invited me out. I didn't go. But yesterday, I decided that I would show up. My wife and I were planning to go, but she was tired (She'd been cooking meals all day for her granny, that's another blog though).

I ended up seeing another friend of mine who said, "I don't think Ezra is preaching today." Oh well, I need to be in church anyway. My friend and I were sitting in the last row, trying to be as low profile as possible. As I looked around the church that was barely half full, I realized that it was woman's day. This particular service will be altered from the normal service.

There was a woman who was quizzing us between songs from the choir. Asking us about different things in the Bible. Of course, I had no idea. And there were those like me or those who just were not interested in answering. At one point, the woman became frustrated and shouted to the half empty church, "Get out of your comfort zones." She was right!

In the middle of this, I was tapped on the shoulder and was pointed towards the pastor's office. My friend was there, letting us know that he was invited to preach at another church today. "Do you guys wanna come?" Ezra asked us. "Sure." So next thing you know, we're riding to another church. Ezra is a young, up and coming preacher and is invited to"preach out" all the time. He had never preached at this particular church, but it didn't seem to phase him. We had a normal conversation on our way there. Similar to any other conversation we'd have. "I'm really glad you came today. You made my day." He said. "I'm just trying to understand the Bible better and get closer to God." I thought. It has just been long past due.

Milestones

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There were a couple of milestones that I failed to mention. First and foremost, I had my 100th post a few posts ago...I am very proud of myself because I was nervous I wouldn't be able to keep it up. But I've managed to get even more consistent the longer I've been posting. Thank you. Thank you.

The other milestone is my one year anniversary here at New Horizons. I was always confident in myself, but when things started to get really tight towards the end of last year (basically as soon as I got here), I didn't know if I would make it.

I've been very consistent with my sales for the past several months, which feels good. But I tell you, every month, you think there's no way you can do it again. Sales is a stressful job that way. Today you're a hero, tomorrow you're at zero. Gotta keep working...

I have a new goal for the remainder of the year and it has nothing to do with my current job: I want to make at least $1 selling something other than what I sell every day. I am trying to put a couple of things together. I will definitely keep you posted. If you have any suggestions, please share. Make sure they're legal!

Quarterly Review

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Hello again. Today, I want to talk about my quarterly review today. Not my review, but our entire organization's review. I believe these types of things are healthy for the morale of the organization. Some people think that it's a waste of time. These are the same people who complain when we don't have things to celebrate our successes.

My point is: Some people are just never satisfied. No matter what. I would encourage everyone to celebrate your small victories in addition to your larger ones. There are times when it feels like nobody cares. And if they don't, you need to learn how to be your #1 fan. You don't always have a quarterly review at your job. You may not have a job right now. Make sure to take time to pat yourself on the back.

When It's All Said and Done

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What are you doing with your life? Do you think it's important? Will you leave a mark on this world when you are dead and gone? Eryka Badu has a line in one of her songs: They won't name no buildings after me. Will you inspire, encourage, or will you just exist?

I understand that my career won't really change things if I continue to go the route I'm going, but I know there are many ways I can have a positive effect on society with out being a social worker.

If you choose to do nothing for the "greater good", that's your decision. I have some plans and I will definitely keep you guys in the loop with my projects. I understand the power of the people, and I want to use the voices to help change the world. In my little way. I probably won't be leading any marches or rallies, but you never know...

Stay tuned...

Politics As Usual

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I was talking with some of my friends this weekend and we started to talk about running for an office (one day).

One of my friends who has some experience in that field, believes it is absolutely impossible to come out of politics "clean". There is so much foul play, even at the local level, that eventually it will corrupt you.

Even if you are trying to do the right thing, you may need the support of someone doing the wrong thing. So then you start to barter. I'll support you in this, if you support me in that...

It's like those medicines: Side effects may include diarrhea, sore throat, extreme anxiety/depression, and last but not least, vomiting. And you're thinking, "All I wanted was allergy relief."

I have thought about politics as well, but I don't agree with laying with dogs. I don't know if I'm up for dealing with the craziness. There's enough of that within my family and at work. I don't know if I can take much more.

I believe that the power is in with the people. The problem is: I don't think the people know it. And if they do, I don't know if they care.

Thank You!

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First of all, I'd like to thank those who continue to visit my blog and support. I am hopeful that you are getting some good food for thought, if nothing else.

FYI-I just found out that you can email blogs to others. If there is a particular blog that you'd like to share with someone, please do. Also, feel free to leave a comment. You don't have to leave a name, you can leave an anonymous comment. I will continue to allow that until idiots start taking advantage and leaving inappropriate things...

What Would You Do If I Sang Out Of Tune?

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So I've been up and down lately in my mood and I don't like it. I think you feel so much pressure when you're in a sales role. If there is an issue and it involves money, all you have to do is sale more. To be in control of how much money you make is a crazy realization. It seems so simple: Sale more and make more money. Too bad it's not that simple though.

Sometimes you're frustrated and you start doing things differently. I haven't been working out, my approach at work has been a little different, and most importantly, I haven't spent much time with my friends.

This weekend I knew I'd be spending time with my friends. I needed it. I have a handful of close friends and we do a good job of encouraging each other. And getting on each other's case when that approach is needed. I had a chance to see a few of my friends and it was much needed.

Being around people who genuinely care about you is nice. Even if you don't agree with everything they say, you know that their intentions are good. I am very blessed to have the friends that I have. Actually, I consider them family.

I had been so anxious because I want to make sure that I'm working hard, but not so hard that I become a Grinch when I get home. Many of my friends are newlyweds like myself and they can relate to the responsibility that a man feels when they have someone else to take care of.

Sometimes you need to regroup and you need some assistance. Being around others that actually "feel" what you're saying, you are more likely to take heed to their advice.

Reach out to your loved ones if you're feeling a little down. Seek advice of those you trust. Take that advice and couple that with your own opinions (along with prayer)...hopefully those steps will allow you to climb out of any funk that you're in.

Unlucky...

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I was looking at magazine that my wife left in the bathroom. I'll pretty much read anything that I get my hands on. And believe it or not, I've gotten some good info from some of the mags that are geared towards woman.



Well, this magazine was Lucky. I don't know why but, I noticed that there were not many black people in there! As a matter of fact, there was one advertisement with a black woman and one article that featured a black woman. That's it. I'm not gonna lie, it bothered me.



The media pushes their vision of beauty on the rest of us. Whether it's a white woman, a skinny woman, or if the woman is black, 9 out of 10 times she's lighter skinned. Hmmmm?



This is definitely not the exception to the rule. The majority of mainstream magazines are similar to the one just described. I don't like it.

I think the people modeling these clothes should look like the majority of the people who are looking to buy them. We should have more "regular" folks in these magazines. And in the ads in these magazines an on t.v.. We as humans have self-image problems. In a lot of cases woman more than men. How can they compete with these skinny minnies in the magazines and on t.v.?

And then guys (because we're jerks, not jerks, just foolish sometimes) compare all the woman we see to these "MTV Ready" chicks on television. It's not fair. We need to love ourselves, and all of our flaws. We also need to love others for their flaws. If someone can't except you, then you should drop them like a sack of potatoes...

Wow...Great Value

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A couple of weeks ago, my wife and I were looking at the sales papers. Places like Target and Meijer had the sales item right next to their version of it...for a lower price than even the sales item. This is something very new for them (trust me, my wife would know). But with the economy the way it is, it makes absolute sense.

My wife buys a newspaper each Sunday and clips coupons and figures out what's on sale. Sometimes there are a bunch of coupons, and sometimes not so much. We do our shopping at a few different places: Wal-Mart, Meijer, Target, Kroger, and the fruit market. Why so many places you ask? Well it depends on whose having the sales. Many times we don't go to all of the stores because...we don't need to. Wal-Mart is the place that we start, and the rest are very close to where we live.

We began to venture off slightly, and starting buying some of the "off brand" things. I started with granola bars from Target. My wife started with the apple juice from Wal-Mart. And some other things here and there. Well yesterday, will forever be known as "Great Value" day at the Hall household.

FYI-Both my wife and I grew up on brand names. Period. So some of you may so it's no big deal. It really is a big deal for us.

We went to Wal-Mart and bought all types of Great Value brands (that's Wal-Mart's name for their brand). That wasn't our plan, but my wife started then trend. And once we started, we couldn't stop. Now, don't get me wrong. There were still many things that we bought as normal, but the percentage of those has dropped tremendously.

I have a magic number for how much I plan on spending at the grocery store. I take that number in my head with the amount we usually spend and average the two. We were well below both numbers and I am excited about it!

When I was younger, I wouldn't be caught dead with anything that was "off" brand. The thing is" We could have afforded the "name" brands, but we wouldn't have had as much money. Duh... The really exciting part is the thought of not noticing a difference in taste, but noticing a difference in our pockets...The only issue I'll have is if my foods don't taste good. I refuse to buy nasty food to save some money. But if the taste is there and I can save money...Rock on.

It Ain't Over Til It's Over...

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There was a baby born in Paraguay, who was pronounced dead after he was born 3 months premature at 17.6 ounces. They put the baby in a box and sent him home with the parents. While the father was about to take the baby out and get him dressed for his funeral, the baby started crying like crazy. He was alive!

As delicate as human beings are, with bones being broken and such, we are some very resilient creatures. Whether it is mental stress, physical stress, or a combination of both, all things are possible through God. It is really amazing.

The baby is in an incubator and in stable condition now.

If we all had the fight that little guy had...

It Takes Time

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I am feeling a little weird. I have all of these thoughts racing around in my head. As I mentioned recently, one of my best friends, his mom passed away suddenly last week. My thoughts and prayers are with their family.

Death does many things to those who remain. It makes you sad that you've lost someone. It makes you feel guilty if you guys were not on good terms at the time of their death. It makes you appreciative of life. It shows you how delicate life is and how it can all be gone in the blink of an eye. I always say that someone went to bed last night with a plan to do all sorts of things today, but they never made it. It makes me feel kinda guilty that my plan was to do absolutely nothing today.

Death should make you laugh harder, love more, and worry less. Life happens and your life is one occurrence away from being turned upside down. Enjoy what you do daily, try to minimize your regrets, and honor the "golden rule". Don't take yourself too seriously, but don't be a pushover. Don't go to bed mad. Don't put sleep before a friend. Don't let money rule you or change you. Enjoy every day because it could be your last.

Getting Settled In

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Well, we are finally moved into our new apartment (which is in the same building as our old one). It was a good feeling writing the check for the new place, knowing how much money we'd be saving per month with our downsize.



There are needs. And there are wants. The trick is separating the two. We have continued to sacrifice wants for needs with the expectation that our sacrifices would pay off. We are cutting costs and slowly but surely, starting to see some benefits. I have a good feeling about the remainder of the summer. I am excited, rejuvenated, and looking forward to what God has in store for us. I am anxious to see what the economy will do for us all.



I have friends who say my wife and I have inspired them with the things we've removed from our expenses. Our plan was to trim costs and put more money towards debt. With the eventual plan of saving (for a house...and other things). It is better to turn services off and downsize than having somebody turn your services off and booting you out of your place. It was a good decision, but looking back, I wish we would have done it sooner. I think this experience will give us a more realistic perspective of what we can do without if need be.

What Does It All Really Mean?

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I am sad to say that one of my best friends, his mother died this morning. I've been knowing him since third grade and I consider he and his family, my family. His father married my wife and I.



Every now and then, I am reminded of the things that are truly important to me.

I'm so serious all the time. I take my job seriously. I take my friendships seriously. I am aware of the responsibility that I have when I make certain commitments and I am very serious about fulfilling the obligations that I make. There are people that slack on their job. People who are not serious about life.

I'm not saying I have a problemwith those who are not serious about life. To each his/her own. I just wonder why I'm so serious all the time.



Sometimes I think about my job and how insignificant it is. I sell training, education. I equip people with tools that they need to be more efficient in their job. I'm not selling snake oil. I know people are benefiting from my consultation. But it aint exactly curing cancer or fighter world hunger.

When I think of death, I think of things that people would say and/or do if they knew today would be their last day. There's that balance: Living for today,but making sure you are prepared if you happen to make it to tomorrow. If both ideas are the extreme, I am definitely closer to the "making sure you are prepared for tomorrow" idealogy. I need to get closer to the middle. I need to enjoy being young and brilliant. I need to make sure my wife is enjoying being my wife. I need to set the foundation for our future without sacrificing my present. Hmmm

My thoughts and prayers go out to the Farris Family.

Times a changin

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Can you believe it's already August? I heard on the radio that this summer (in Michigan only I think) is on pace to be the coolest summer since...well since they started recording this type of stuff.



The more things change, the more they stay the same. There are some definite patterns in regards to: Success, failure, high blood pressure, obesity, and all types of other things. Understanding the failures of others. Studying the failures and successes of others should put us in a better position to succeed. But many of us act like we know everything already and fail to study or listen to stories of "back in the day".



We then end up repeating history. Many times we're on the wrong side of it.

Sometimes I Don't Know

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Sometimes I don't know...It was a very strange day at work. I won't go into detail, I'll just say this. Make sure you know the role you are being asked to play. Don't get too big for your britches. Embrace your role, play it to the best of your ability, and if you decide you'd like to do something else...do it.

Every now and then I'll be talking to one of my friends and he'll be really frustrated about his job. He doesn't think they care about him...They probably don't. He has a job to do and they pay him to do it. Period. He's not there to make friends

There's a guy that I know who has a very unique perspective on work. He told me, "When someone asks me do I like my job, I tell them when I interviewed for the position that wasn't part of the job description. They had expectations and requirements. They asked could I meet them. I replied yes. Nowhere, not one time during the interview did they say I'd like it or I was required to like it. I'm paid to do a job."

There are the "Haves" and the "Have nots" with a few people in the middle. Please understand what is expected of you. Sometimes you may have to put on a happy face although, you are not. A couple of fake laughs here and there.

And once you feel that you've been there long enough to start complaining about things that are going on...Watch your back. Because either you are too old, you make too much money, or you are just too obnoxious to get along with. Maybe all three. Either way, they will justify getting rid of you if need be.

Woman in NYC sues Monroe College

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I read on Yahoo.com, that this Monroe College says that it helps graduates find a job. Apparently, this woman didn't think so. She is suing the school for the $70k in tuition that she's paid. Do I smell a trend coming?

One Man's Trash...

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I feel like I've used that title before. Oh well, no big deal right?





I don't have many pictures of me when I was young. Not as many as I'd like anyway. So since I realized that, when I was about 16 or 17, I wanted to always take pictures. Since I've been married and even before that. I started to look at my pictures differently. When you're in Corporate America, you can't give the camera the finger. Next thing you know, somebody will be posting the thing on facebook... Not good. I haven't really gotten rid of those type of pics, I just hide them, and try to keep my finger down (and my beer) when I'm in front of a camera.





The pictures that I have gotten rid of were pictures of women. Not neccesarily girlfriends...Well maybe a couple of them were. Not the point...I always thought I'd keep them to show my kids when they got older. Use them to bring back memories and bring a smile on my face. Well, my wife found them. And although nothing was inappropriate, she wasn't too pleased. We had a small spat and eventually I came to my senses and threw them all away. It's probably better that way.





What's the rule with that type of stuff? Hell, I've only been married for about a year, I don't know.

Rock Bottom...

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When I moved away, I didn't get much support from my family. Financial or otherwise. I had saved up money so even when I was in Kalamazoo with no job, I was okay...for a while.

I don't recall the exact moment. Probably because it was probably more of a series of events that led to me hitting rock bottom. It was when I realized that nobody would come to extend a hand if I fell flat on my face. That was a terrible time. But it was also very liberating! Once you hit rock bottom, there's no way to go but up. You understand that either you'll pull yourself off the ground or you'll just stay there. That moment should be experienced by everyone. It was the beginning of my real independence.



I was talking to a guy last week who said he never treat his kids like his parents treated him. They didn't treat him bad. It was actually the opposite. He feels like they never let him fail. When he screwed up, they'd tell him it was ok and they'd give him money. He is very much an adult now and they still pay for many of his expenses. He is a successful professional, but he still receives an allowance! He has a false sense of what the real world actual entails. He doesn't blame his parents, he just wishes that things were not always handed to him. I think it's safe to say that he has never hit rock bottom. Will he be able to overcome this or will he eventually land flat on his face without a clue of how to pull himself up? I don't know. I think that all depends on the person. I don't know about everyone else, but it did wonders for me.



I plan to have the resources to spoil my children very much when they arrive. But I also plan on letting them figure things out on their own for the experience. I'd like them to learn how it feels to hit rock bottom and hopefully they become even more appreciative of the things they have.



I'm sure it is difficult to let your children fail, especially if you can prevent it. But those "real life" experiences, in my opinion, is one of the best gifts that we can give.

I Do?

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Why do men get married? Is it the same reasons that women get married? And no, I'm not having regrets about my marriage. Thank you very much.

I was just looking at some pics on facebook of a guy I know and he looks so happy. The only thing is, I know the truth.



When my wife and I went to pre-marriage counseling, the reverend said that many people get married for other things besides love. That was very interesting. I got married because I love my wife and I plan on spending the rest of my life with her. Period.



A guy I know who's contemplating marriage has been asking me questions about being married. Questions like how many events do you have to attend on a monthly basis that your wife drags you to. I'm sorry to say, but those are things are minute. There will definitely be bigger issues than that. If that is all you have to worry about, you have a life many people would love to have.

Training Camp

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July 31 marks the beginning of another Detroit Lions training camp. What does that mean? Well, it depends on who you ask. I believe in learning from your mistakes, making adjustments, and doing your best to avoid prior mistakes while not being afraid to make new ones.



Sometimes we get so passive because we don't want to make mistakes. I am definitely guilty of this. I am going to work on that. I'm going to work on really studying history, current events, and my profession. In my field, there is no training camp. You adjust on the fly, from your first day to your last. The easier that you can adjust, the more successful you'll be.



So as I root for the Lions this year (yeah, I'm still a fan), I am hopeful that changes to the players and coaches bring about a new result. So as I root for the Lions and their improvement, I will be busting my butt, doing my best to improve on a daily basis.

Slightly Distracted

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I've been extremely distracted for the past couple of weeks. My wife had an opportunity with one of the employment agencies to get a full-time position. The benefits were better than mine (I'll leave it at that) and the salary would have allowed us to have more freedom financially. Well, the long and short of it is this: She didn't get it. I was disappointed more for my wife than "our" situation. She is an extremely hard worker, very smart, and loyal to a fault. She went and graduated in 4 years (just like they tell you to), and hasn't gotten many breaks while pursuing full-time employment. Sometimes you feel like you can't get a break. My wife hasn't gotten one and my heart hurts because this job was another opportunity that slipped through her fingers.

I was so nervous during her interview process that it was hard for me to concentrate on my job! So naturally she's been down since and so have I. It has taken me weeks to pull myself together. I've interviewed for jobs, only to come up just short and it sucks! The biggest thing is I'm tired of telling her things are going to be fine. I know they will, but she needs someone to just listen right now. I like to solve problems, so with my hands tied, it really bothers me. So I'll let her vent and...you know what? It does stink that she's tried to do things the right way her entire life...God has a plan and very rarely (if at all) does our plan coincide with His. Especially the timeliness of things.

For all of you who are facing obstacles from everywhere...stay strong. I believe if you stay in the game long enough, good fortune will come your way. As I think about "bad luck" that my wife and I have had, I can't help but be grateful for all of the wonderful blessings that God has given us.

Buzz Kill

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Things are not fair. They never have been. They never will be. Should there be an attempt to level the playing field somewhat? If you say yes, who should do that?

Those people who have the power and influence don't see a problem with things the way they are. My co-worker said, "Get a job and have your employer pay for your insurance." I replied, "What if you can't get a job?" To which he replied, "Too bad." Wow. That will be the last conversation that we have regarding things of that nature. It is crystal clear to me that he's not budging in his stance.

I don't know what the right way is to handle things. But my co-workers that I've been talking to are soooo against free education and universal health care. My question is, "So what do we do then?" And they give me that look like, "Nothing."

God forbid their fortunes ever change, but I wonder what their opinion would be if the shoe was on the other foot.

Has There Been Any Blacks In Space?

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Well, hello there. I feel awful that it's been almost a week since my last post. I have some good stuff today though. Hopefully this will make up for it:



The last time I posted, I talked about some race relations type of conversation I had with my co-worker. Well since that day, I've had about 3 more conversations with 2 of my co-workers. I don't care to get into what our conversation entailed. Not because I'm so upset or offended. Because I think we've all heard it before....Well, let me just give you the premise:

I tried to explain how history cannot be ignored and it plays a bigger part than people want to believe currently. The two white guys (co-workers) that I was talking to said that black people should just not worry about the past. What's done is done. I realized that I was wasting my breath. Coming from their perspective, growing up like they have, they can't wrap their brain around certain things.

I also realized that it is important to know the past. It is important to know how this country was built and the groundwork that was laid for us to get to this point.

I am not one to make excuses because I'm black. "Well, the man is holding me back." Never. I also won't defend those that make excuses. I will do my best to explain circumstances that you may not be familiar with. Paint a picture for you.

As I write this, I can't get my words together. How do you attempt to explain something that started 400 years ago? The civil rights movement? How they had dogs attack us, beat us with clubs, and then arrested us...because we wanted to vote. Because we wanted to be treated like human beings. How do you explain slavery? How do explain things that you were not alive for? Things that you should know more about yourself?

I believe there are psychological scars that we still carry (some are more visible than others) to this day. Although black people will not get a free pass from me if they are lazy, unmotivated, and/or breaking the law. We, as black people need to take more responsibility of our youth. We must set better examples for them to look up to. We must remind those who came after us the struggles that we've face and continue to face. That will make them understand their responsibility as a black person (because it took a lot for us to get here), realize that the built-in excuses are lame, and hopefully work hard to dispel stereotypes and become productive members of society. We owe it to our ancestors to not take our freedom for granted and pass along excellence and high expectations to those who come after us.

One more thing: Although history plays a part is today's times, that story is getting old. We need to fully take advantage of our opportunities and continue to show that we are more than athletes and entertainers. Those black lawyers and doctors and engineers need to show the kids that those professions are possible as well. They need (shoot, I need it too) to see successful people that look like them. They need to have greater expectations placed on them. And after that, they need support.

What do you think?

Joy and Pain

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Let me just start by saying...Whew! Today was a day I thought I'd never survive. It started early this morning when I didn't want to get out the bed. Once I was up, I grabbed my phone and called my bank to make sure my check had posted. Uhhh, no! As my phone started to ring, I was redirected to Sprint's payment center. My phone had been turned off! Are you kidding me? So once I realized what was going on and called the bank, my check hadn't posted! This is all before 630am! I was not a happy camper. Oh and by the way...I had to void about 1/3 of what I've sold this month. Not a happy camper. So I decided that I'd just stay at my desk all day and just hit the phones like crazy.

There was nothing I could do to change what was happening, so I just tried to make up the money I lost by...selling more. I saw hurdles and decided to just run them over. I didn't get the results I wanted today, but I know I'm moving in the right direction.

I also had a very interesting conversation with a co-worker today in regards to racism in America. He's a white dude...very interesting. LOL...I will be posting earlier tomorrow to share that with you. I want to put this out immediately and hopefully you'll comment and give us some insight.

My name is Baxter...

Nobody Cares Kid

I went to a seminar last night on how to start a small business in Michigan. I saw the information on Linkedin.com and I was really interested. I told a few of my friends and two of us attended. Well, after about 4 minutes of being there, I realized this was a networking group of displaced or unemployed people. Oops! It was a really odd feeling knowing that everyone thought that everyone there was unemployed. I kinda felt guilty for having a job. Weird.

The eye opening part of the night was how many people who had great jobs...jobs they had for as long as I've been alive! Naturally, many of the displaced workers were from the automotive industry. One guy said he went down to some service after he was laid off. They asked him, "Sir, what is your dream job?" He replied, "That was my dream job. There were only about 5 of us in the entire world." That comment touched my heart. It made me feel very fortunate to have a job. A job that I actually like! These were (mostly) degreed professionals. And they were let go from a job that they'd never be able to return to.

I'm on the phones a lot at my job. Inside sales for the most part. Sometimes you don't feel like being on the phone. Sometimes you don't feel like calling anyone. Sometimes you don't feel like being told no or sent to voicemail. I'm sure at your job you have similar feelings some days... My advice would be to thank God that you have a way to pay your bills and keep that smile on your face!

I Want To Be A Rock Star! Part 2

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Discipline. That is my arch-nemesis. I have too many things going on to not be disciplined and organized. I have so much going on in my brain sometimes (OK, all the time), that I am easily distracted. These great ideas pop in and out so quickly, I have to write things down to keep track.

Consistency is something that I have much respect for. That is my aim. I respect it because I know how hard it is for me to achieve it. My manager said that my personality is that of a
C-Level executive. I have the great ideas and everyone else is suppose to carry them out. The problem is: If I don't show that I can carry these great ideas out, I won't be advancing to
C-Level anytime soon. I'll keep you posted.

Ridiculousness of the Day

I'm from a little place called Royal Oak Township. It is nothing like Royal Oak; It is basically on 8 mile across from Detroit, and sandwiched between Ferndale and Oak Park. Royal Oak Township or "The Township" as we like to call it, has always been a place much closer to Detroit than Ferndale. You have your typical characters; crackheads, athletes, and drug dealers. You could get beat up, but normally you didn't have to worry about being shot.

Well, those days have changed. A 17 year old boy was shot and killed last weekend. Although I didn't know him, he was a friend of my 20 year old nephew. The boys were gambling. From the gambling, a fight developed. So there were people who left and came back in cars. Shooting at whomever was there.

What happened to fighting, winning or losing, and call it all square at that point? OK. Sometimes you may even want a rematch if you lost the fight. That's cool. But these guns. There's no coming back from that. I really do think it's a shame. Times have changed. And more often than not, they change for the worse.

I Want to be a Rock Star! Part 1

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The funny thing about this blog is: My mentality is very different than before I started blogging. I think that I'm a creative writer. Sometimes. One of the things that I haven't done much of lately is writing poetry. I thought that this site would give me an opportunity to share my poetry with the world. Problem is...I haven't felt the urge to write poetry since I've been blogging.

I am definitely a people person, but I am very private also. I don't want people all in my business, but I'm also protecting many people by keeping certain things to myself. This blog has allowed me to open up much more than I would to most people. For a long time, I didn't have an outlet like this so I wrote poetry. I'm confused because I don't know if the urge will return. I know that I am loving this site and I want to do more (creatively) for those that follow Baxter's Buzz.

These days, I can't even pick up a book if it is fiction. My wife loves fictional stories. That allows her to get away from reality. My getaway is sports. As a teen, I'd go and shoot hoops by myself when I had things on my mind. These days, I follow all of my Detroit sports (not as much hockey though), and that allows my mind to take a break. I still love to read. I just read self help books and magazines now. I'd rather read a recipe book than read a fictional book these days. The recipes can be applied to real life. I don't want to hear about some made up story. Give me an autobiography to read.

I think I've been worried about real life a lot lately.

Those of us who've just gotten married in the last 12-18 months have had a tough time. Marriage is hard enough, but the economy has turn up the heat on everything else. I have a new job, a new wife, baby talk, and a sales job in this terrible financial state that we're in. All of this stuff swirling around in my head can wear you down. I know I'm strong mentally. I can block most things out and do what I need to do, but sometimes it is tougher to do.

I am going to focus on taking a few steps back and enjoy myself a little more. I told you guys a while ago that I was going to share of fear of mine with you...I am afraid of failure.

Many of the people that I knew growing up were not "successful" in my eyes. People told me how smart I was and all this stuff, but it has taken me a long time to channel my energies on the correct goal and get that "tunnel vision" that people always speak of. I get it in spurts. But not long enough spurts! I am improving, but still struggling with this at my old age of 28.

Can I Get a Second to Breathe? Part 2

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On July 4, we went to an early movie. 'Public Enemies' was a very good movie. The only complaint that I have is there was too much shooting. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind bad guys shooting at good guys etc. But trust me, they went overboard.

Well, my family didn't get together on the Fourth and my wife's mom was out of town. We found ourselves with no plans for the holiday. I would have been okay with it, but I didn't think my wife would. I called one of my friends because they hadn't made plans either. We ended up over my friends house. He and his fiance'. It was a very low key day and I was totally okay with it. Sometimes you run around so much when you have days off that you don't get a chance to rest and recharge your batteries.

I was very satisfied with the day. I was very satisfied with the entire weekend. For some reason, I've been very aware of all of me and my wife's "firsts". Our first Christmas and Thanksgiving. All of the other first also. I understand (or I get lucky sometimes) those things that are important to my wife and I do my best to give her something to remember.

It wasn't a whole lot of excitement, but it was just right for us. And that's what I'm realizing. My wife doesn't always want to do something "super duper fun", she just wants to do something. The problem we have is that many times I want to do nothing...To be continued

Can I Get a Second to Breathe? Part 1

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Oh boy. The week has begun people! Ready or not. I wanted to share some of my thoughts from the Fourth of July Weekend:

That movie 'Public Enemies' was really good. I read a review that talked about Johnny Depp's charisma and how it stood out in the movie. They were right. I am a very tough critic when it comes to movies, so if I give it my stamp, that means something (or at least I think so).

This was me and my wife's first July as a married couple. And although I would have been totally content with staying at home (I was tired and worn down), I knew that she wouldn't. So I woke up early, as I normally do, but my wife was still asleep. I looked at some movie times online and thought that maybe we could get a matinee price because the showtime was 12:45pm. No discount...$15 bucks for 2 tickets! So then we went to buy popcorn and pop (I almost said 'soda' because I didn't want to follow popcorn with pop, but I have never said soda in my life). There was a number on the register, but the cashier and walked away to grab the popcorn. $11.50 was on the register. My wife said, "Well that $11.50 must have been from the last people." Nope...that was our bill. So $15 bucks for the tickets and $12 bucks for the food. Johnny Depp had a lot to prove to me.

I will get to the second part of my holiday tomorrow.

Tragedy

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We have tragic things that happen everyday. There are wars going on, crimes being committed, and people dying everyday. I want to speak a little about Michael Jackson.

I saw a friend of mine this weekend and he seemed really interested in how I felt about Michael Jackson passing away. I was on my way to one of my meetings that day and a friend of mine called with the bad news. It was crazy to hear that. I immediately called my wife and that was about it. I was almost at my meeting so I didn't have a whole bunch of time to think about it.

The next morning I was listening to the radio and people were sharing their opinions. Normally in the morning I go back and forth between WJLB (Hip Hop and R&B, although I normally turn it off when the music starts) and The Ticket (Sportstalk radio, but not from 6-10am). So The Ticket has 3 white people that DJ. 2 guys and a woman. WJLB has (depending on the day) 3-5 black people that DJ. 2-3 guys and 2 women. I'm always very interested to hear what each station has to say, especially if they're talking about the same topic. The demographics of the listeners are very different and I love hearing those differences.

Let me tell you this: Black folks are very protective of black people. We sometimes defend people that shouldn't be defended. It's like we can talk about our people, but you can't. The reason that you can't is because we don't know if there is a hint of or a whole bunch or racism. And even if it's a black person who's criticizing, black people will get just as defensive.

I try not to be that way, but sometimes I get very protective also. We don't have many black heroes/role models and we don't want them to be knocked down.

Which leads me to my point: Michael Jackson was a hero to many of us. Black and White. But when he got into trouble and was being talked about by everyone, black people embraced him and supported him. It was almost as if everyone else had chewed him up and spit him out and he ended back up on our front porch. And we took him in! White folks talked about his nose. Blacks folks talked about it too. White folks talked about the allegations. Black folks talked about it too. But when it seemed like the entire world was against him, the black community gravitated towards him, patted him on the head and told him things would be okay.

He destroyed barriers like he was in a video game. He represented the American Dream. Making it out of the hood and becoming a big star. He just happened to become the biggest star ever. He was one of our heroes! And right or wrong, many black people were not going to let you talk about Michael right after he died. It wouldn't be right!

It's still tough being black. Period. Is it as tough as before? No. But it's still tough. We are still dealing with all types of inferiority complexes. And if we brag too much sometimes, that could be the reason. If we buy the biggest car or the biggest piece of jewelry, that could be the reason.

We want so bad sometimes...to let you know that we're okay, but we are not. Michael made us feel like we were okay. That we could dream big and those dreams just may come true. He was selling out stadiums...and he looked liked us. And even when he stopped looking like us, we remembered him as that big nose kid from Indiana with the afro. And we felt like he still represented us. He had some flaws and I'll never defend what someone has done in their personal life when I don't know them personally, but we all have some problems. Have we had as many problems as Michael? Probably not. But when he died, many fans black and white were not going to stand around and let people bad mouth him. That wasn't the time for it. Those that considered Michael a hero, wouldn't stand for it.

That's all I have to say about that. RIP Mike...

Halftime Adjustments

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Hello again. It's just me, trying to share my thoughts with you all.

Happy holidays and a big shout out to the veterans and current soldiers who've made and continue to make our independence possible. I'm pretty excited to get my week started. I have had time to regroup and get my thoughts together. I have some new things that I'm going to try out in regards to work. I feel like I mention it all the time...getting back to basics is so important.

I had a meeting with my boss last week and although I wasn't looking forward to it, the meeting was exactly what I needed. It gave me some things to think about and with the long weekend, I've been able to brainstorm.

The other thing that is exciting is my rent: I've paid rent for the last time for this 2 bedroom. We are downsizing later in the month and that will save us a nice amount of money. Combined that with cancelling cable and downgrading my phone plan, we're going to save some cash. This should be the first month that we'll actually see some savings.

So my wife financed her eyeglasses last year (before we were married), and we've been late on the payments lately. So this company (I think it's GE Financial) calls every-stinking-day. So finally I answered the phone and said, "Hey, we don't have any money. We're just like everyone else. Do you have any options that would help us out?" He said, "Mr. Hall, I actually do." They gave us a lower payment and interest rate for 9 months.

I guess my reason for telling you is: Try it. We don't owe much at all for this particular bill, but try it on those bills that are really kicking your butt each month. It can't hurt to try.

Fourth of July Buzz

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So here we go. Last day of the month. Unorganized chaos. It's the last 2 minutes in the game and you need a hail mary to win. But I don't want to talk about that.

I want to talk about friendship.

I have some crazy relationships with my friends. Some of us talk often. Others, not so much. I don't have many "friends" anymore. I consider them family. Well, sometimes family treats you pretty crappy because...you're family and you'll understand.

That won't be me anymore. No more free lunches, free passes, or whatever else you want to call them. They'll be held accountable for their actions like everyone else. I hope they hold me accountable for my actions as well.

The older I get, the more my time is important to me. I'm not wasting time as often because time is money. And when I decide to waste time, it won't be hanging out at some event that I'm not really welcome at. Or they invited me because they felt they "had" to. I'd rather chill out and play Madden Football on my Xbox 360 and waste my time that way.

I know I've been pretty irritable lately. No apologies though. It's how I've been feeling. I had a fortune (from a fortune cookie) that said: "Be sure to let your friends good news as well as bad news." My interpretation was that I sometimes share too many struggles and not enough victories. I feel like I'd rather share struggles so you can get strength from it, than share good news and you feel like I'm bragging.

Good News: I am having my best month to date at work.

Struggle: I'm still working on my finances=I'm still broke...lol

Good News: I'm excited because in the next month I should see some benefits from our cost-cutting moves.

This is me leaving on a good note! I really appreciate all the good feedback that I hear. Please keep reading, and I'll keep writing.

The Customer

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The customer is not always right. There I said it! We as sales professionals work really hard to earn business. Those of us who have a great product/service can stand behind that.

I am pretty simple in my approach. If I believe we can help, I will give you a call. If we've helped you in the past, I'll give you a call. If you tell me you're interested, I'll give you a call. If you tell me to call you back on a particular day at a particular time, I'll do just that.

All I ask of you is to show some courtesy. If you've changed your mind, it's okay, just let me know. If the request didn't get approved, it's okay, just let me know.

I'm frustrated (didn't know if you could tell) with a particular account. I don't want to get myself in trouble so I'll be careful how I put this. I don't know who's reading this blog.... : )

I bent over backwards to earn this person's business. He gave me his word that he'd be available for a conference call to move the training opportunity forward. He stood me up. Not only me, but others from the New Horizons team. He probably thinks that it's okay because he's the customer. (FYI, he finally responded via email with a very weak excuse). I am not okay with that.

We are professionals! I'm not sending crazy spam emails, or sending letters tricking anyone in to calling me back. At the very least, this dude could have called and said, " I can't make the conference call." Simple as that. But he'll expect me to call and kiss his behind because he's the customer.

Now I may kiss a little behind every now and then (shocker I know), but not that dude.

Right is right and wrong is wrong. Period. He was absolutely wrong. If he's a decision maker for this organization, he should have more respect for other people's time. Now, if I was to call him and communicate my disappointment, then I'd be wrong? We all have a job to do. Please understand that. Maybe I'm different. If I get a sales call, I'll let the person speak their peace. If I walk into the mall, I'm never rude because they have a job to do. Do me a favor: If you inquired about some product/service and receieved a call. Then you changed your mind. Then the salesperson has called, but you've begin avoiding the calls. Call that person back. Heck, send the an email. That's all I ask people!

Rough Week

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Last week was tough. Rough. There's a bright side though...I just don't know how soon it will be here.

Mentally, I'm exhausted. I'm just run down. I'm always trying to be solution oriented, but sometimes there is no solution but time. I have these vitamins that I've been taking for years. The serving size is two, but I only take one. I figured that taking one was better than not taking any. One doesn't seem like enough any more. So I'm starting to take two each day and I don't know yet. (FYI, I get my vitamins from Vitamin World. Ultra Man for active men, but I'm pretty sure they make one for women also).

Work was terribly slow last week. An ex colleague of mine put it simply, "We're in sales. When we're selling, we're happy. And when we don't, we feel like sh**." Well said, Leslie.

Last week, I wasn't selling and yes I felt like crap. I am always making adjustments so I look forward to seeing if they help any.

Carpe Diem

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Just looking at those trains collide today made me think of two things:

1. You can do everything from sleeping 8 hours per day to taking vitamins, but when it's your time to go...you're gone.

2. If computers were the reason that these trains crashed, that's scary because we're relying on computers more and more. When you're talking about lives, they have to be perfect because 99% ain't good enough.

Father's Day

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Happy Father's Day to all parents who play dad in their household. There are many woman who are the only parent around. Happy Father's day to you...For those single dads, being mom and dad...a special Happy Father's day to you.



I was at home doing dishes, with one eye on the laundry (my wife was actually doing laundry, but I had one eye on it when she ran to the store).



I realized...well, I've known it but some days it resonates a little louder. Men have to lead. Period. Your woman should follow the example you set. Wait a second, before you get all crazy. There are definitely times when the wife/girlfriend should get to lead. But overall, a man should set the tone.

Today it was super hot. We didn't feel like doing anything, but the house was a lil messy. So, my wife had started washing clothes and before I had gotten home, she ran out to the store for this stir fry type of thing at Meijer. My first thought was to sit my a** down because I had been at work all day. I even stayed late (as usual), but I decided to unload/reload the dishwasher. Then I was upset because the damn thing hardly washes anything. So I actually washed the dishes by hand. I rode that momentum and wiped the counters and swept the floor.

Honestly, I'm trying to do more things like that more often....and I have, but not as frequent enough.

I know my wife took a vow to love and honor me, but I think the days that I contribute to keeping our house clean, I make it easier on her. And I'm easier to love. Nobody wants to see somebody chilllin' while your busting your tail. Not at work or home.

I think everyone should play some type of team sport. When you realize how important it is that you do your job, and how it impacts your team...I think a light goes off... For most of us... Well, at least some of us.

Living for the weekend...

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Hello again. I really need to write at least once a day! I'm such a scatter brain, that I have all these thoughts and then I lose them. I always feel better after I blog too. It's like a relief.

I think about life and I realize why I love sports so much. Mentally, I need a break! Sports is my opportunity to exhale and be entertained. I love the competition, the strategy, the adjustments...

That's life...you have this great game plan. You're going to go to school, study hard, graduate, and get this outstanding position with this fortune 500 company.

Then life happens, and you need money for school so you start working more hours, they promote you to manager so you work more hours, you meet a girl at the manager conference in St. Louis (I don't know why I chose St. Louis, just follow along please), and she gets pregnant. You move from Ohio to St. Louis to be with her, but she already has a boyfriend. (They were on and off: you met her when they were off , but by the time you move all your things there, they're on again). So then you find a job there in St. Louis...and 6 years have passed. Damn!

No college degree, no job that you can see yourself in for the next 30 years, and...that's when these game-time adjustments kick in. Life doesn't have to go exactly like you planned it to be considered good. You just have to make the correct adjustments. That was why I love coaching basketball and I love life: it's all about adjusting...like a chess game. Or a basketball game.

When I was a freshmen in high school, I was in the locker room before a basketball game and my coach gave us the game plan, "Ok, I want us to win the jump ball, dribble down the court, run our play and score. Then I want us to set up in our defensive trap and steal the ball. I want us to run our play and score again. After that I want us to protect our lead." I promise you guys that this fool, our freshmen basketball coach said that (or something very close to that). It sounds good, but it's not realistic.

• Be flexible when life throws you a curveball.
• Be ready for your next opportunity.
• Be thankful that God is giving you another day to correct your mistakes and make adjustments from yesterday.

I Always Feel Like...

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Hello there! I'm terribly sorry for staying away so long. I have all sorts of goodies...just not today.

We have students at our facilities all day, everyday. I said hello to a woman who was at the vending machine. She said, "You are always in a great mood when I see you. You're always smiling. That's tough to do these days." I told her I appreciated her comment and that some days were easier to smile than other days.

You never know who's looking at you. You could be looking at your new friend, boss, employee, client, or mate. Keep smiling! Fake it until you make it!

At least I can watch the Lakers..

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We finally received our coupons for the converter box. It's a $40 coupons and the box was on sale for $49.99...you also need an antenna. Prior to getting the box, we couldn't even watch regular tv because we didn't have rabbit ears. I feel like I've done more since I've haven't had the option of television. Maybe you should try it.

My wife had been interested in the W. movie since it went to theaters. Well last weekend we started to watch it...not exactly what she thought. She sealed the Netflix up and it's on the way back to the warehouse. We didn't even finish watching it! Oh well.

It's Been Too Long

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I talked about my cousin before. He was a really big influence in my life when I was younger. He's in prison now, and has been for the past 15+ years. Every now and then, I'll have a dream that feels super real. I always assume those are the days that he's dreaming about me too.

I've written him several letters, but I haven't mailed a single one off since I've moved back home. I have no idea why, but I'm upset with myself. My plan is to write him once a week from now on.

He gave me so much confidence back in the day. He brought me out of my shell and made me tougher. He was the big brother that I never had, and I hate that he's away...there's no excuse why

I haven't sent him a letter. I have wedding pictures that he needs to see too.

Every now and then I think about where I've come from and the people who have been a part of my life; small or large. I sometimes feel that I have to do well in life because others don't have the opportunity. They're either in jail, dead, or mentally so gone that they can't wrap their heads around the idea of certain things.

If people respect your opinion, you should give them responsible information. The things that you say to someone may stay in their brains forever. And if you know better, do better. The truth is like the sun; you can turn your back to it; put shades on; but it is still there. If you know better, do better. You owe it to those who may not be as aware of their actions.

I mentioned that my cousin was a big influence. He still is an influence. I have to make sure that I reach out and solicit those jewels of wisdom. And then pass those jewels on for those that respect what I say.

The C Word

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Many years ago, when I was a senior in high school, I had a conversation that I'll always remember. It was a friend and basketball teammate of mine. We were in the media center during a study-hour prior to basketball practice.

He really had an interesting perspective on his future...and mine. He is a white guy (is that significant? Depends on who you ask), who was extremely charismatic and an all around good guy. He told me that he'd always have a job because of his family. He wasn't too much worried about the future. He also told me that I would always land on my feet because of my personality. My charisma would ensure my success, or so he thought. I understand what he meant, however I don't know if I agree.

Every now and then I'll think about that and wonder...What do you think?

Adapt or Die

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If you've ever watched the series "24" (my favorite by the way) you've probably seen different people sneaking and talking...away from their desk having private 2 person meetings. You don't know who to believe sometimes. Well we have some of that behavior at my job. People are whispering and the look on their faces and the vibe that I feel is...let's just say not a good one.

Things are changing at my job and maybe a 'newbie' like me doesn't mind as much as a person who's been there when things didn't change so much. I don't know... I told a coworker of mine last week that I'm still new and I don't have many complaints. And maybe when I've accomplished more, I'll have more to say. I don't feel a right to complain about certain things because: That's really not my thing anyway. If I have issues, I talk to people who can help me solve them. Trust me, if I feel it's important enough I'll say what's on my mind. There's so much negativity from a worldly standpoint, I believe complaining focuses your energy on the wrong thing.

I expect other things to change...not sure what. I'm also not sure how people will react to the changes. Personally, I don't care. And no matter how long I'm at my job, that will never change. I have too many worries myself to be worried about yours. Don't get me wrong, there's more than one way to skin a cat. My way is not the only way or the best way necessarily. If you complain and threaten to get things done, more power to you. I'm not judging, just given you my humble viewpoint. And this is Baxter's buzz, not your buzz...

Fred G. Sanford...the G stands for...

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I'm just enjoying a wonderful Saturday, watching Sanford and Son DVDs. Since we got rid of our cable, we've subscribed to Netflix. 5 bucks a month I can handle. We have the movie "W." to watch tonight or tomorrow.

We were at a birthday party yesterday for a good friend of ours. They've been in my life more than most of family so I consider them my family. (When I say they I mean my dear friend and his wife. They've been an item since we were 15 yrs old. So there it is. I've been knowing him since 3rd grade and her since 7th grade.

I've been so excited because I love challenges. And with my wife and I trying to find a way to save some money we've: Changed our cell phone plan; turned our cable off; and we're looking for another apartment. I'm excited because I know we'll be better off because our sacrifices. I love having a plan. I love doing difficult stuff because I know it will pay off. I want my wife to really let her struggles sink in and then destroy them with perseverence!I try to worry about solutions to my problems and not get so caught up with the problems themselves. Struggle is so important in our development. I'm not crazy about it but I understand it's necessary sometimes.

I told you before that I was looking for a new apartment because my current place didn't want to talk to me about any incentives for staying...well that has changed. For those of you who know me personally, know that I'm very persistent. Let's just say that I was able to get in front of the right person. LOL... So I'm staying in my current community. We are going to downsize our place and save a decent amount of money per month.

I understand how important goals are. My wife and I have some individual and some collaborative goals. We started this month and I'm looking forward to see if we're up for the challenge! I think it is important to achieve goals that you set for yourself. From a mental standpoint, to pick a goal and achieve it...It's very empowering.

One of my goals is to spend more time with you guys here. I'm going to the YMCA to work out 3 days a week, and I'm taking my a** back to school also. You know I'll keep you in the loop!

**I appreciate your support. For those that check in to see what I'm up to and what's on my mind, I'm very flattered. I'm really enjoying this. I hope you are as well.